i have a big problem with my wife being examined by a male doctor in an intimate way, it gets me very upset, i feel sick at my stomach, and feel real panicy about the whole ordeal after i observed it once. i feel like punching the doctors lights out for doing that to my wife.
2006-11-25 12:58:36 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
from a females point of view i prefer to be examined by a male doctor,i feel uncomfortable showing my bits to another woman.if you had a problem with your genital area would you like a male doctor handling it? no,thought not,its not an intimate way,its a proffesional way,if you want your wife to get the correct diagnosis and be treated correctly,then sort yourself out,stop being so possessive,doctors are there to do there jobs,not to be perverts.
2006-11-25 13:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by stokies 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
No offense, man, but really. Her OB has gone to medical school, and is perfectly qualified to take care of your wife. I could never, personally, have a female OB. I've always felt more comfortable with a male.
If you're that insecure, I suggest that you don't go. Don't hang it over her head, either, if that's the doctor that makes HER feel comfortable.
By the way... Just because of the fact that YOU cannot get a handle on your emotions does NOT mean that your wife should have to suffer. After reading the only answer that you have given so far on this site, I don't think that your elevator goes all the way to the top. Instead of worrying about your wife's OB, I would suggest getting yourself a good shrink to prescribe you Prozac.
2006-11-25 13:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
No. Having a gynocological exam is one of the most unpleasant things a woman experiences in a doctor's office. A pelvic exam is totally nonsexual. It's uncomfortable and a little embarassing, not a fun, sexy time. There is absolutely no reason to be jealous. Her doctor is a professional. He sees hundreds of women every month.
A good doctor is hard to find. If I had a good male gyno whom I trusted, I wouldn't switch to a female gyno just because my husband had ridiculous insecurities. Be pleased that your wife is taking good care of herself, and try to grow up.
2006-11-25 13:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The husband is caring and sensitive...traits women say they cherish, The only insecurity here are women that think they must have their parts checked because the little gods they worship say so. These docs became gynos because women are so easy to exploit and BONUS they get to wield great power over women and like porn addicts keep seeing more and more of what they love.
Women talking about control freaks, really is the kicker as they are typically the control freaks in marriages.
2015-03-30 20:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by Eddie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through 3 female gynos and 1 male... the male was the nicest, most professional and least painful. If it bothers you, then don't go to the appointments. You want her to be happy, right? Being happy with your OB is important, and there is NOTHING sexual about pap smears and pelvic exams. Believe me, she is deriving no pleasure from having her cervix examined. I would not change gynos just because my husband didn't like him. Husband is not the one being examined, and if he is uncomfortable, he can go sit in the waiting room.
2006-11-25 13:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to deal with your own problems instead of trying to force your wife to change doctors. The examination process is very invasive and to find a doctor you can trust and feel more comfortable with is not easy. I had a male OB/GYN for years until I moved away from his office. My husband totally understood and was happy I found someone who I was comfortable with and trusted. There is nothing sexual about it, you need to get over it....and trust your wife.
2006-11-25 13:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by schaianne 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
??? Do you think she likes it any better.
When I was pregnant, I had to go to a practice, due to our insurance. In essense, I saw whatever doctor was on duty, of the eleven that worked there...male, female, old, young, didn't matter.
My husband came on a couple of visits...sometimes it was a female doctor, other times, a male doctor. He's possessive, but never minded.
I'd be more perturbed being the WIFE of a male OB/GYN...he sees dozens of women very week!
I think the doctors detach themselves...no big deal.
2006-11-25 13:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by katheek77 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to put this into perspective. The gynocologist is looking *inside* her body, at the cervix-- not too hot....
You should have some therapy to figure out what's going on with this.
Your wife should have the doctor she's comfortable with. If she is pregnant (and this question *is* in the pregnancy category), she has lots of things to be concerned with other than your irrational jealousy.
2006-11-25 13:11:42 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's really important for me have a really good doctor, so no I wouldn't switch doctors for a reason like that. My grandfather is an OBGYN and I know he didn't get any sort of pleasure out of looking at women like that all day. It's really kinda gross if you think about it. After I gave birth my husband told me he would never feel weird about it again after what he saw.
2006-11-25 13:01:59 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well I think that is just the most childish thing I have ever heard. The exam is the same male or female so get over yourself.She should have the doctor that SHE likes and it has nothing to do with you.
2006-11-25 13:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋