My boyfriend and I had been together for 3 yrs. We were planning to wed this summer but out of no where he says we need a break. I don't understand. It has only been 2 months and he is already seeing someone.
2006-11-25 12:58:17 · 24 answers · asked by Drew 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what a poop!!
2006-11-25 12:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You say Phew Weeeeeeeeeeeee and be happy that you didn't wed yet lol.
Can you imagine how you would feel if you did get married and he was cheating with this person? Did you imagine how hurt you would be? No Really imagine it !!
Thank God that this has turned out for the better. I understand EXACTLY how you feel, How much it hurts, how many things that remind you of him, how you feel he is the one for you, i know , i do but be happy this didn't happen when you are pregnant or on your 2nd child. Everything happens for a reason. See it for what it really is hun. Learn from this and apply it in the future.
PS. People will only treat you the way that you allow them to. Don't ever forget that. Set limits and follow through.
2006-11-25 21:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I hate to say this to you, but I just got out of a similar situation and upon investigation I came to find out that he had been seeing this other woman for a while and I was the only one in the dark. He said he needed a break when you two were talking marriage. Well, the same thing happened to me and you should give him the break plus an extended break. Bottom line. They always think that the grass is greener on the other side, just know that what goes around comes around and in the end when he realizes that he messed up and he wants you back, don't be nasty, but let him know in no uncertain terms that it was his decision to leave the relationship in the first place.
2006-11-25 21:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he was seeing her way before he told u he needed a break,he needed a break from u, not her. be glad u already weren't married to this man. i know it hurts alot, and we don't understand why, we may never understand why, sometimes it's best not to know why. he already had the other woman before he broke it off with u. that's the real reason why. he just didn't love u as u loved him, nothing wrong with u, it just didn't work out for u, we can't make someone love us that doesn't. best to find out the truth now than after u married him isn't it? u will get over the hurt, u will find someone else, sometimes we think we know someone, and put all of our trust in them, and maybe we shouldn't have.
2006-11-25 21:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you unfortune, but men like to spread there seed. When they are in a relationship that is comfortable they are fine. Then even when talking about plans they are comfortable because their just talking about them. But the bottom line is when it comes down to it and it really is happening they freak out and run. Men love new things becasue they are easier and when things become to much to handle they get out fast and move on to the next easiest relationship to get away from any feelings they were having in the first place, this how they deal with their problems, unlike us who sumurge ourselves in Ben & Jerry's, call everyone we know to tell what happened or play all those sad love songs and cry to them. You must move on like he did, I know that sounds hard and yes it will take time, but never let him see you mad. Maybe letting him know you don't even care, even though you do and yes it will be hard, might bring him back!
2006-11-25 21:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by A.K.A NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not meaning to be flip, but he KNOWS what he is going to do. He's going to see other people. If I were you, I would consider doing the same. Not because he did, but because you need to meet a man that will love you, and care about you. It's obvious he doesn't. He should have been a man and told you he was done, instead of saying, "we need a break". All he wanted was the opportunity to see other women. Move on....forget that loser! Best of luck to you! It hurts like crazy, I know.
2006-11-25 21:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get Tee to a local place of Worship and thank the creator for allowing this man to show his true, untrusting, hypocritical ways before you were wed, had a house and had children...This was truly a blessing and a gift for you....
2006-11-25 21:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by ray b 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but he has intended for the break to be long term.. Find someone that deserves you and go on with you life.
2006-11-25 21:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has moved on so should you You deserve someone that will be content with you. Trust your instincts you sound like you have doubts about him you are your own best judge
Good luck and I know you will make the right decision you life is meant to be lived not waiting on others
2006-11-25 21:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Blue 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to move on. He was not ready to get married and by the sound of it was cheating on you before he told you about the taking a break crap.
Go find a nice guy and forget that loser.
2006-11-25 21:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Biker 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why should you do anything in particular? You folks weren't married, and he just decided to find a different lady. Single people do that often. I doubt that he was your first boyfriend, and he won't be your last.
2006-11-25 21:25:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋