My soon to be Ex and I made a promise to each pther and the CHildren that we would spend thanksgiving and CHristmas together for the children as this is the last Holidays we will be together. Thanksgiving weekend we are doing that but On CHristmas day, she has decided to go to her parents house for CHristmas when she has already been told that I am not welcome or invited. To me this is wrong of her to go along with that and basically tell me that that day will be spent over there where I won't be. Am I overreacting by getting upset over this? To me, a promise is a promise especially if it is made to the kids and she needs to tell her parents that if I can't be there then niether will she because she promised the Kids and me that we would be together on that day.
2006-11-25 12:48:57 · 5 answers · asked by Greg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, that's not cool. She definitely needs to keep her promises. The thing is, even though YOU guys are over, you both still need to be there for your children, because this is going to be very rough for them. I would gently remind her of the promise both of you made to each other and to your children. She does need to spend the day with all of you, not with her parents. If she refuses to stick to her end of the bargain, you can't MAKE her do anything, but politely let her know that your children will NOT be going with her and spend the day with them yourself. It is important for YOU to keep your promise to your children as well, so even if mommy doesn't want to, you need to.
2006-11-25 12:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. MP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try being overly rational... The date isn't going to be as important as the experience to your kids. Perhaps you could celebrate with your family Christmas a bit early.
Talk things over to your wife and let her know that providing this experience for your children is important and see if she would be willing to work out a compromise with you.
2006-11-25 20:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Aves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a fit. Those are your kids too. Her parents need to wake up and let you come for the kids sake. They are the ones looking forward toseeing you. It will upset them and may make them turn on there mother. I would be fumeing like no other.Good luck.
2006-11-25 21:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by Ready G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I think that if she has made plans then, you two should compromise she can spend some of the day there and then with you and the kids or whatever. Otherwise this will all backfire into a big arguement. good luck.
2006-11-25 20:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Emmielulu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you this is very selfish of her. You should all spend Christmas together like you promised.
2006-11-25 20:51:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋