I'm a 16 year old male and I get turned on when I think about another man spitting on me, urinating on me, and abusing me.Why does this turn me on?
This is a serious question.
2006-11-25 12:43:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's a fetish and it's not that uncommon. As long as you practice it with someone that you completely trust and have a word you can tell them for them to immediately stop (known as a safe word), it's your business what you like to do. It's OK to play as long as you play safely.
2006-11-25 14:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that while most people aren't going to get this, there is nothing wrong with you. Somewhere your sexual response has gotten mixed up with this fantasy of degradation. and you are not alone.
You are very young and you are going to have to be patient. Remember that this is simply a fantasy and while in time when you are older, you will have the opportunity to get involved in a healthy BDSM relationship where you can safely live out your fantasies, you cannot get involved in this right now.
Humiliation play is simply the humbling of the ego. Many men and women respond sexually to this, and many of us incorporate this type of play into our relationships. For many people Domination and submission enhances their life with a satisfaction not able to be achieved in the vanilla world.
If you feel that you hate yourself and you deserve this sort of treatment, then you are going to have to be proactive and get counseling. You need to have a GLBT friendly counselor and hopefully kink friendly as well. You are not too young to start reading, and educating yourself. Do NOT get involved in real life. You are too young to give informed consent, which is the foundation of BDSM. Anyone who would play with you at your age is a predator and does not have your best interest in mind. I know that it will be hard to wait, but please do, so that you can fully understand your nature, what you want, and what you don't want. Please understand that most of us will not talk to anyone so young, so again my advice is to seek out the reasons why you want this, and if its negative, then seek counseling. If its not, and you feel you have a good handle on your emotions and maturity, then start educating yourself. Do not get involved on any other level until you can legally give consent.
Good luck to you, and you are not alone.
2006-11-25 21:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a submissive, and you probably like S&M (Sadism & Maschochism.) You like the idea of being controled in sex, and the sadism conveys that. This is not the same as being in an abusive relationship, though, since those relationships mean that the one being abused is not enjoying the abuse (if he/she was, it wouldn't be abuse!) S&M is a perfectly normal fetish, and underneath the "sadism" it's actually incredibly tender and personal. Acceptance of S&M is growing, especially in the middle class. It's not "weird" or "sick" to be into that anymore.
2006-11-25 21:22:33 · answer #3 · answered by roxusan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know I like that yo im also a 15 yearold male so we are sorta close in age but maybe its a stage were going through o well we aint hurtin no one your just kinky thats cool You could have some weird fetish for animals or old ladies or furry vaginas so its all good lol.
2006-11-26 00:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for several reasons i am sure because it is a "fetish" like any other it is "degrading" but not in a harmful way.. it is the sheer act of defiance "out of the norm" if when you turn 18 you still feel this way Hit me up lol
2006-11-25 20:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Daddy James 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were probably in some fashion abused as a child. Your feelings of worth, unchecked will not only reflect upon your life not only now but relationships in the future. Unchecked and acted upon as time goes by the problem will worsen. It is your mind, nobody but yours. It is not an out of control processor unless you wish it so. You have the controls and the means of analyzing 'why' this happened and to make sure that you do not act out on it. This is not only your karma but the karma of the perpetrator who you are 'bringing out' to both your detriment.
You can do it, if you want to.
2006-11-25 20:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by honorbright24 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
A lot of guys get aroused by different things. Do not feel ashamed or bad at all.
2006-11-26 02:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like that sort of thing, just the way some people like blondes. Whatever makes you feel good :) As long as it's consetual and you have a safeword, go for it!
2006-11-25 21:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by lillielil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just wired that way.( wired, not wierd)
it is certainly nothing for you to be ashamed of or worried about. you must learn to control it as we all must control everything we can about ourselves.
A shrink may help you find out why if it is psychological from your experiences, but probably not. they can be an expensive wate of time.
2006-11-25 20:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a word for this. It is 'submissive'. Some would say you have a self-esteem problem and that you associate sexual arrousal with being dominated. I say 'if it floats your boat...'.
2006-11-25 20:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by St. Toad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋