im 15 years old and i hate my life?

Question

life just isn't fun. it sucks being a teenager. i wish i was 6 again life was so much fun and so carefree. not that its not carefree now im very happy i have a good family and im a fairly privelaged child. but as we all know, money does NOT buy happiness. i hardly have any friends im not a wierd girl though. im constantly reminded by my 22 year old sister who was very popular in highschool at my age how i have no friends and i need to get out there and have fun. but the problem is, i just can't. i have like 4 friends, 2 close ones. my one friend never includes me in anything with her other friends and my other friend is always doing her schoolwork nonstop. why can't people just grow up? when's the age where girls start including other people in their plans and all of these nonsense stops. i've been dealing with this since i was 13! it never ends!

Answer 1

Be proud of who you are and don't try so hard to find a click just to fit in. You sound unique and those people that need to be in a click are insecure. Just because you don't hang with the in-crowd does not mean that you can't be happy. You can be just as happy with one true friend than 20 acquaintances. Quit comparing yourself to your sister! Popular people can be just as lonely and confused as you are feeling right now, they just won't admit it.

You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with you. I know this doesn't make much sense to you right now, but when you are older you will be thankful that you are a free-thinker and don't have to go along with the crowd.

Answer 2

Having been a teenager myself, I can kind of see what you;re getting at, however, with the same advantage of retrospect, I can also see how idiotic it is. You are 15. How much of the world have you seen, only the tiniest iota of it. Considering the fact you live in oneof the worls most afluent countries, you've been born into a life 95 percent of people on this planet would highly envy. Also considering the fact that the chance of you having actually coming into existince, what with it being influenced by countless trillions and billions and millions of chance genetic encouters, down to an atomic level, you've been blessed so much just to be here! So you don't know quite who you are yet, so what, that's what being a teenager is ALL ABOUT! Use the amazing potential of the time you have been given to find out who you are, why you are here and what you want to do with the incredibly short time you have in the vast cradle of existence. If you look around you will probably find that you have way more things going for you than you think, and if you're not happy with your life, change it! Life is what you make it, the only person who can change what happens to you, is you. Stop worrying about it and just get on with it, you've only got one chance at this so you may as well get on with it and make the most of it you bloody can, because considering how bloddy amazing life is, if you really could see how amazing it was, there is no way you could turn around and say life was in anyway less than perfect.

We cannot choose who we are, yet what are we but the sum of our choices.

Answer 3

to tell you the truth, I've been down that road, too....
hey, I'll be your friend!! I'm nice girl, not comin on to you lol but I have seriously been there.

When they don't include you in things, they don't respect you. They may do some nice things for you, but a real friend would include another friend in reindeer games, get it?
Now, about the studying friend....maybe you could help her study? Maybe she could help you study? Get a lil girl time in there :)
I don't appreciate hearing that people remind you of how your sister was so popular. That hurts a child deep, from my experience. But, maybe you should be more outgoing. Is there something you like, an afterschool activity that you could try? Hey, go down to the community center (if you have one) and find a hobby. If you don't rise to popularity soon, who cares? At least you'll be seeing things and meeting new people :).
I joined drama and BOOM! 2 weeks later everyone knew my name. I'm also very popular with the girlscouts. Also, if you wanna join a group but you feel in ur gut you don't belong with those people, just be youself and if they don't like it, oh well. Its easier to keep up with what you are than what you're not.

so I hope I helped dear. I'm always here for you, too cause I've been to hell and back n I know what I'm talking about :-D

Answer 4

You know what? I have good news (but it may be a bit of bad news too). IT GETS BETTER. But it may be a while.

Kids are kids and they can be insensitive or only think of themselves at time.

I was an overweight child my whole life. On top of that, I was really incredibly shy. And *then* on top of that..my Dad was in the military so we moved every two years which meant I had to change schools every two years and sometimes right in the middle of the year! (Not good combinations.) I was always struggling to make friends and just when I had some I had to move away and then go move somewhere else and try to make more. I'm like you--I had a few friends rather then 10 or 20. But you know what? Sometimes QUALITY is definitely better then QUANTITY. I am an adult now and I am not shy anymore and i have the potential to have *LOTS* of friends. I'm involved in a lot of things and people are very nice to me now. But you know what? I dont' want a bunch of superficial aquaintances. I'd rather have one or two close, close friends that I coudl count on when it's important and I want to be one that others can count on and in order to be that friend and to have those friends..you have to pick good, quality friends.

But it really is better when you're an adult. For the most part adults aren't as shallow and superficial.

Now none of this may matter if you are lonely and really want to get out there and do things. Because believe me..I understand. I will go out by myself now..go catch a movie or something..but when I was a teenager I did *not* want to do things by myself. So perhaps you can join a club or something with others who do things you like to do and just meet somme new people? I wouldn't give up on my friends, though. It wouldn't be out of line for you to ask your friend if you can come with them the next time they go do something.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I hated being a teenager too. I was constantly depressed and wishing I was a kid again. I wrote angst-ridden poetry all the time about how much my life sucked. Now I am 30, married with a child, and still have those old books of poetry and they seem so distant now. I sure wouldn't want to relive those years or the emotions that accompanied them. And its true that socially its hard and people don't seem to care. What I would have done differently is seek interests and an identity outside of being a high school student.

Answer 6

Uhmm, i'd personally try and meet new people, like there can't only be those 4 people in your school. Well actually i don't even know if you're a guy or a girl. But still be outgoing like even if you don't have great people skills try and do things like football games\dances and things just talk to people, i promise if you do that and are nice you'll make better friends. Speak up! and if those other friends you have(well actually they don't even sound like good friends) but still, if they don't treat you like they should. Totally ditch them. I hope i helped, i mean im in highschool too sooo i sorta understand. But im an outgoing person, But really Good luck! :)

Answer 7

I think we all feel the way you're feeling at sometime in our lives.
and you're right at the age when close friendships are formed, and guys are really starting to notice you, and old friends drift out of your life, and new ones drift in. and 22 year old sisters who are trying to help can make you feel even worse!
I really think you should try getting out and going to the movies or the mall or even to dinner with your sister. you need a change of scenery. just try meeting some new people, start with a simple hi, and go from there. and try to get to know some new people at school too. it really sounds like you and the friends you have now are starting to drift apart and you're all developing interests in different things. no one is to blame. that's just how things are.
please just give my suggestions some consideration okay? I do know that it's hard growing up, but you're going to find your place in life, and you're going to do great! it just takes a little time.
I wish you the best.

Answer 8

being a teenager is never easy, trust me. i just got over a lot of drama that made me super stressed and very depressed. it's all part of being a teenager. and as hard as that may be to accept, it's the truth. instead of moping about it, try to pick up a hobby. horseback riding is my sport, and it helps me get through my hard times because a horse is a friend for life. they don't judge you, they don't care how much money you have or what you wear. and they listen without interrupting. but, riding isn't for everyone. find something you love and enjoy doing, and go for it.
as for your friendship problems; have you tried talking to them? a good friend will listen and try to fix things. maybe plan a day when you all go hang out at the mall or have a girls'-night-in where you watch movies and chow down on snacks! it's totally fun and gives you something to laugh about later at school.
being a teenager is hard, but the drama will pass. i promise. just keep your chin up and keep smiling. nobody likes to be around a depressed person, so try to stay positive.

Answer 9

your not the only i was like that ecept my sister is 18
i know life can suck and it can be hard at times
but you just have to deal with it and
if those are your friends i wouldnt even consider them friends
if they dont include you in there life then what kind af friends are they?
you need to talk to someone even an pet or a tree
at least something
speak your mind all you anger will go away and all
these troubles will seem easy and will go away
and when youy have kids you
can
help them if there in the same situation
or know some one the
key is
sove ploblems one step at a time

Answer 10

Its time you turned the tables. YOU invite them over, you make the plans, invite new people to come over and watch a movie and fix popcorn. You're right, money does NOT buy happiness, but sitting in your room mopeing doesn't either. Step out of your comfort zone and invite acquaintances over WITH your friends. You will develop new friends that way. Find a good church youth group. That's where all the kids I know make their friends and they have a GREAT time because there are no expectations. . . just friendships.