I am married and my husband go and shoot pool every thursday night, one of his friends come by and pick him up, now everytime I say something about I am going to get me some friends and go out with he say well I won't go. Do you think it is something wrong with that, please let me know.
2006-11-25 12:16:07 · 17 answers · asked by mslivinglarge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there something wrong with him going to shoot pool with his friends every Thursday night? Not really. Is there something wrong with his saying he won't go, in order to keep you from going out with some of your own firends? Yes, there is. You should both be able to have friends that are separate, and have a boys' night out and a girls' night out; (play cards, go window shopping, have a pajama party and paint each other's toenails or whatever)--make photo albums, quilts, etc.
But you should also have friends that you share, go out to dinner with, have dinner at each other's homes, play card games with, etc. You should not be two people living separate lives under one roof--not if you are married. And you should both enjoy seeing each other grow in your social lives, personally, spiritually, and emotionally. The "nights out" should draw you closer, not be the cause of fighting and division.
Can you see what you both like to do together? Then doing something separately should not be a threat to either one. It should make you happy to see him do something fun, and it should make him happy to see you doing the same.
Peace be with you both! Let us know how it all turns out.
2006-11-25 12:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is something wrong with that...why not go play darts at the same pub he shoots pool? Take a bunch of your friends.........most important thing tho is to have a good time!
2006-11-25 12:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by justmedrt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand your question. You are saying that one night out of seven, you husband shoots pool with his friends. You're asking if it's OK for you to tag along with you husband?
Absolutely NOT, if he doesn't want it. You are not his mother and he is not your father. You need to treat him with respect and he needs to treat you with love. Him shooting pool once a week is not a sign that he doesn't love you. You forcing yourself into his time away from you is a sign of disrespect.
Turn the tables. Assume you had a bunch of friends, and once a week you ladies go out for a ladies night out. Also assume that this is a 'NO MAN' time and that you didn't want your husband along. If he forced himself into your time out with your friends you probably woldn't like it either.
2006-11-25 13:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by donleek2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there's something wrong with that. He wants to keep you to him self and tied up at home at all times.. Go out with some friends and have fun.
2006-11-25 12:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by babie919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! it sounds like you have a problem with him doing it, you should stop threatening him, you really do need to get some friends! let the poor guy go as long as he comes home to you
2006-11-25 12:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes what is the problem with you having friends? Sounds a little weird to me.
2006-11-25 12:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, very wrong. He won't let you go with friends but he can? Double standards! Don't let him control you. He's your husband, not your daddy!
2006-11-25 12:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes does he think that only he shall be the one to have fun.. well thats not right.. "girls just wanna have fun" not do anythin else.. well they shouldn't anyway.. tell him that u dont want to waste your life doin housework while he plays a couple games of pool
2006-11-25 12:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to have friends just like he does. He is your Husband not your master!
2006-11-25 12:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. He should do something that you want to do or atleast let you tag along every once in awhile.
2006-11-25 12:18:38 · answer #10 · answered by pickles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋