Why are there so many divorces if everyone marries for love?

Question

Isn't love supposed to conquer all? P.S> what is love specifically in bullet points plz

Answer 1

Cause guys are cheaters!!!!!!!!!!! : )

Answer 2

The true definition of love is not really what we see on television. Our lives are not made for tv movies where everything turns out rosy and beautiful in the end.
I believe that love is:
- Commitment, even when it would be easier to leave
- Communicating with your partner, even if you would rather confess to someone else that you are not happy with your partner (this is what gets so many people in trouble with infidelity!)
- Staying for the long haul.
- Looking at your partner after 10 or 15 or 50 years and still seeing the person you married.
As for the reason why divorce is so common, we seem to live in a disposable society, where Mr. or Ms. Right has become Mr. or Ms. Right Now. Most of us don't enter into marriage thinking it is temporary, but most of us don't work as hard as we could to make it last through the stormy times.
I believe that marriage is never what you think it is, until you are in it. Keep your sense of humor and empathy for your partner and your marriage will last forever!

Answer 3

They marry too young and they think lust is love.
When you first get together, it's what catches your eye and the chemical attraction. You don't really have much control over that.
Love is something you have to work at. (WORK HARD)
It doesn't work if you don't.
Most marriages that make it, do so because they learn the ins and outs of cooperation. You really do have to take the good with the bad.
Most marriages fail because of money problems.
Two people who are to young to figure out how to make bank.
So no matter where it could have ended up...it will fail.
Because they just don't have the knowledge to make it.
It takes time and understanding, most people are in too big a hurry. We're all being raised on fast food. We want every thing right now, or sooner.
If we get frustrated or bored we just move on. There are too many people that are missing the bigger picture.

Answer 4

Ahhh...., not everyone marries for love. Some marry for money. Some marry because they got pregnant. Some marry because they are lonely. I mean it goes all over the place. There are a few that marry for love, but it seems to fade over time. True, that true love doesn't fade, but sometimes people think that the grass is greener on the other side and would like to find out what it's like. And when they do get a divorce and find out what it's like, they're not very happy about their decision. We have certainly become a throw away society when it comes to marriage. People don't stick to their wedding vows anymore because it's too easy to get out of the marriage, and that's sad.

Answer 5

There are so many divorces because people are lazy these day's .They only want to be married or in a relationship if they don't have to do anything.If it is going to require any sort of effort on their part they give up.Of course those kind of people really weren't in love with anyone but themselves to begin with.People need to think hard before they get married.And they need to understand that if it isn't worth fighting for it isn't love.Not true love anyway.That being said their are other more valid reasons people get divorced.Like inability to communicate,immaturity,loss of a child,different child rearing views.There are some people who just don't get along anymore.All of these reasons cause divorce.Has for you what is love question.It is different things to different people. For me it is always being there for each other without being asked.It is showing respect for them even if you don't agree with them.Love is sometimes hard and not always fun.But love can and will conquer all. If it is true love.I believe this with every fiber of my being.My husband and I have been through it all together from financial ruin and medical problems to the loss of our first child and the constant fear of losing our son to his medical problems. Through everything we have made it not because it has been easy but because the love we share for each other helps us Indore it all.

Answer 6

Because too many people people believe that love can conquer all. It can't.

Marry for love, not lust.
Marry because you love and respect the other person.
Marry because you can see yourself growing old with this person beside you.

Marry someone who shows these qualities consistently over a significant period of time:
1.a sense of humor...when times are dark, it helps to have someone around who can make you smile.
2.kindness
3. loyalty
4. a strong sense of personal ethics
5. patience
6. a strong work ethic
7. not a substance abuser

I'm not Christian, but I love the quote from Corinthians by Paul (?) defining love. I think that it sums it up quite well.

"Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

Answer 7

It is really naive to think that everyone marries for love. This may not happen as much as it used to but people have been known to get married because of a baby. Not only that some people get married young and even though they may love one another they change. Young people expect to feel the same love they have for one another and that isn't always the case.

Answer 8

After you get married, and live together, you begin to notice subtle things that bother you. If you let them fester, and don't remember the things you love about the person, after some time, you begin to take for granted what you had. Then, if nothing is done, you fight. After a long period of fighting, you begin to wonder why you married the person in the first place. If you are too angry, and don't seek help in remembering, you get divorced. Love is many things. But most of all, it's understanding one another, and knowing you are different. It's working together to create a better life for yourselves.

Answer 9

I think that relationships are more than just love. Love is a basis, yes, but compatibility is a large part of it and of course commitment. You don't always fall in love with the people you are most compatible with. I used to think love was the be all and end all and love will always triumph, but that is just unrealistic. I believe true love is eternal but does not always guarantee that you will be able to have a successful relationship with that person. I am in love with my boyfriend, will always be in love with him, but I still have not decided if I love him enough to commit myself to him for the rest of my life because we aren't very compatible. I'm hoping for the best but it seems that every good thing has an equally bad thing to balance it out... In the end I'll probably end up marrying him and being content with our less than perfect relationship because I love him enough to accept our shortcomings and keep trying to improve them. I wish I could have that perfect, easy relationship but I am not willing to give up the one I have to find one more suitable. As for why so many people get divorced, I believe that they don't think hard enough about what they need and what it will take to have a life long successful relationship with the other person and then get in over their heads but haven't built the foundation that is necessary to withstand hardships/complications.

In the end I conclude the same thing that Don Henley determined:
"Sometimes love just ain't enough"

Answer 10

Because at first you are in love you marry because you plan to be together for the rest of your life then something happens in the marriage that causes either the wife or husband to stray even when things seem to be perfect as soon as someone younger and better looking comes along that is usually all it takes. I dont have a perfect marriage I have admitted that my husband and I have our arguments and usually its me starting them but I know he loves me and I love him and our little fights arent going to split us up after getting mad and having our fits we make up. Every couple is different but the one thing that would make me divorce him is if he CHEATED. So keep in mind that when you decide to marry that they are the one and that they should be the only one you want to be with for the rest of your life and if your not completely ready to devote your heart to this one person for the rest of your life then marrying them probably wouldnt be a good idea.

Answer 11

The truth is that I don't get it either!!!! That's why I've decided I don't want to get married, because it's just meant to get like a routine, I'm better off by myself.
I only know one example of a good marriage they're like 73 and 76 years old they still hold hands and stuff they're really cute but, they were both married before; soooo maybe it's about trying and failing until you find the right thing, or you find a way to negotiate the marriage???? I don't know I guess sort of young to know the answer to questions like that..