He is a professional person with a good job. Do you know of someone like this? What does it tell you?
2006-11-25 12:01:24 · 30 answers · asked by whrldpz 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i married a man who had been married 3 times before me, what a mistake i made, he was controlling, seemed to have some kind of personality disorder, he didn't love or respect me. he ended up cheating on me, after 10 long hard years of trying hard to get him to love me, we are now divorced, i must think i am partly to blame because i did not check out his past or how he behaved during stress, i never looked at things like was he going to be reliable, was he trustworthy, should have known when i asked his mom what happened with the other wives, and she blamed the wives, that maybe it wasn't all true. should have known i would suffer the same fate as them no matter how good i was to him, or how much i loved him. just an immature man, and i should've known better, should've checked it out, and waited longer and gotten to know him better.
2006-11-25 12:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be a professional in the work force, but he is a wreck at life. If he has been married 5 times before he was 40, he didn't find 5 bad women......the problem lies with the man he shaves in the morning....HIMSELF! Just in case you're considering him....want to be number 6?....I didn't think so! Good Luck!!
2006-11-25 12:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would steer clear of a man like this..married 5 times by the age of 40..something is obviously not right with him..
I would do some serious investigating and thinking before I would even consider making a date ...
2006-11-25 12:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
could be that he expects TOO much from the women he chooses without being prepared to give of himself- emotionally or otherwise. like- he expects to be "lord & master" & his lady not to have an opinion.
alternativley he rushes into the marriages while still in the first stages of *lust* mistaking that for love & then reality hits.
without knowing anything about the man - it would seem that he needs to take some time & get to know himself as well seek some professional counselling
there are a lot of people who are very good in their profession but hopeless in their personal lives
2006-11-25 12:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a man who was married and divorced four times before he was 50 and he went for number five with a friend of mine. They've been married for a long time now and seem very happy. If you're considering dating him, I'd go slowly, but don't assume that there's something wrong with him because there may not be.
2006-11-25 12:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by downinthevalley45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Joan_of_freaking_arc is the one to listen to on this one! My now ex-husband had only been married once before, but boy oh boy! Too much to tell.....
If you're considering this man for yourself, I must suggest that you run fast and far away. Do not make excuses for this man or rationalize his past failures. His instability in relationships is crystal clear! HE is the common denominator in his 5 failed marriages.
2006-11-25 14:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by 2blessed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who can really be sure of what it means? The more important question is, (and forgive me for assuming that you're even considering being number six), what would it mean for you if you got involved with him?
He's certainly emotionally unstable, doesn't know himself and the grass always looks greener. He can't commit to something permanent and probably because of his success and prestige in the professional arena, there are plenty of willing candidates(victims).
2006-11-25 12:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well seems marriage is disposable to him!! Could be several things, ie; insecure needs security of marriage, Casanova likes to play even when married, gets bored and wants new after a while. all over probably bad. Can also be he goes for the type that he is incompatible with.
2006-11-25 12:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Blaze 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a man over 40. This guy is one screwed up individual. Even a monkey won't hit itself with a hammer more than twice.
2006-11-25 12:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's got personal issues, or he's just married women before he was ready to, and that created problems. It doesn't necessarily say anything bad about him, or the people he's dated, unless you know the details.
2006-11-25 12:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋