I feel like I love my wife ,but she has done somethings which have made me have a lack of trust and respect for her. It has been a very difficult time and I'm questioning whether i can truly love her if I don't completely trust or respect her- what do you think?
2006-11-25 11:55:12 · 17 answers · asked by hdb107 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes love can contiune to exist outside of trust and respect but will not last for too long. It will start fading away and betrayal and frustration will take place. Love needs constant work from both parts to continue going strong. If the elements that you have mentioned are gone its like saying that the backbone of a relationship does not exist.
2006-11-25 11:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you love her then you love her because those are your feelings.I believe that when you truly love someone, you can forgive them for hurting you and for their actions. I give the people I love the benefit of the doubt. If they done something to me that I could not trust or respect, I will give them a second chance especially if they are remorseful for their actions and they promise they won't do it again. It just takes time to get over the hurt and to rebuild the trust . However, if it is repeated after that, I will not give another chance and I would not be able to ever trust or respect them again. I hope this helps you.
2006-11-25 23:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will still love "her", but you don't love her actions. Once the trust and respect are gone, the relationship is gone also. You will love her like I said, but you can never fully give of yourself again. There will always be doubts, if you try to continue. Good Luck...that's a tough one.
2006-11-25 19:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different levels of love. Without trust and respect, you can't have a good relationship. You love her, but maybe not as much as you did before.
2006-11-25 19:58:07 · answer #4 · answered by Beth T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you can rebuild anything with time. But in general, I feel like you need trust and respect to have a good relationship.
2006-11-25 20:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by veronica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i feel like that sometimes because of what i have been thought i feel the same, but if you forgave her you can still love her you just tend to keep your eyes wide open at all times. it can be alittle difficult at times. as far as the respect when you get into dis agreement sometime you might bring some things up at times because of what was done to you.
2006-11-25 20:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by lele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with out knowing what she did all i can say is to forgive her and give it another shot. think bout it. how can you love someone at arms length? when you take out trust and respect that what happens. you be second guessing and being suspicous at every turn. if you can't forgive her, let her go. it hurts i know but, in sickness and health till death do us part are words you should consider while you choose either forgiveness or letting her go
2006-11-25 20:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by PhantomWiseman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust and mutual respect- you aren't even friends.
2006-11-25 20:01:15 · answer #8 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can love her, but it's not enough. The rest is going to take a while. What you need to ask yourselves and each other is if it's worth it.
2006-11-25 20:02:07 · answer #9 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to first find the answer within yourself. Do you love and trust yourself enough to forgive her, and then let it go. You have to find the answer within yourself.
2006-11-25 19:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by nemraC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋