2006-11-25 11:53:29 · 31 answers · asked by nev 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is important to do what you want to do in life. If other people can't accept it, maybe that is their problem. However, if, for example, you are married (your own choice!)and your partner is pregnant (hopefully your choice) then you decide what you really want to do is to go travelling on your own for a year, then i would say that it is not right and you should have thought about that first.
We all have duties and responsiblities. You do have to take care of yours.
2006-11-25 22:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Caroline 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if its your life. And your unhappy in the situation your in. I would go for it. In this life we all hurt so many people, even when we don't mean too. But think of the reverse side of it. If your friend does something that will hurt you. I guess you just have to go on. And try to find peace and happiness. Maybe happiness is not in our own backyard after all. Good luck. What ever you do. It will be the right choice for now. Because we don't know what will happen tomorrow.
2006-11-25 20:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what you mean by, "hurt somebody else"?
I think if you are directly involved in commiting malicious acts toward another to get what you want, hell no!! That is wrong.
But, if you ask this because you are worried about how a situation like this may effect somebody you are in close proximity to, then I think it is still, ok to go for what you want. Of course, everyone's situation is different. I think that a person should not feel bad about going for what they want, just because someone else might not like it, or you get a little more ahead than they do. I think we all have a choice to test our limits and how far we will go in life. And if we are lucky, then we have partners who encourage us to follow our dreams, etc... I found myself in the same situation lately, and it is a hard choice. Ultimately, I had to base my choice, on who is prepared to be the one to step up and give it a try. If you don't, you may be hurting YOURSELF!!! We all have the ability to go for what we want. It should not have to be a competition... I hate that... with so much talent in the world, I fear a lot of people get left out because of this dynamic...
Did that make sense?
2006-11-26 06:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by claudine sophia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want to do and who it will be hurting. I hurt people as I pursued my career, but not fatally. And I would not think of knocking over someone if it would help my children in a significant way. Net/net, from where I sit you are a good man and any decision you are wrestling with will turn out the right way. You know how to reach me if you want to chat further tonight.
Besos y abrazos
2006-11-25 21:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends what it is is babe. In my life i have been unhappy with a situation for years, and have recently thought "what the hell" i only get one life so im going for some excitement. If its what u want then go for it, it will work out for the best
Good Luck
2006-11-27 08:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life is hard and someone will be hurt. We all want to live a happy life and in order to do that we have to make hard decisions. I wish you luck.
2006-11-25 23:50:44 · answer #6 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the situation. like if you are getting internally, a new position, financially benefiting you, career advancement and you know it will hurt your current job, you have to follow your instinct, opportunity knocks only once, better grab it...
but if it regards to relationship, like having an affair with a married folks, think about the family he/she is going to inflict pain and sorrow, to someone else is not right. you will get it back double..remember the word "karma" that remains unspoken for....
2006-11-25 20:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by salome 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on what you mean by hurt. It's right to go to college, even if you leave your friends behind and they feel hurt if you're too busy to hang out with them. It's not right to lie, cheat, steal or cause physical pain.
2006-11-25 19:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. I used to think of others first before myself, And people would see your kindness as a weakness. Now I am much tougher and harder and look out for myself first (like most people do) There is nothing wrong with "looking after number one"
2006-11-25 19:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends entirely on how you can handle guilt. If that is what this is all about then just do a quick calculation. How great is the guilt? How great is the reward if you go for it? Whichever is bigger (to you) should be your guide.
2006-11-26 16:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋