after my mom died, my dad remarried very quickly and little by little abandoned his adult children. His new wife is brain washing him, and putting ideas in his head that are not true. (Like his kids are stealing from him,His kids are mean, etc. Since he has been with the new wife, he has changed his will 5 times in eight years! My dad came in to his marriage with all of the money,assured me that he would never change, but he has 100 persent!! I have not spoke with my dad in over 2 years and he does not seem to care.
2006-11-25 11:42:45 · 7 answers · asked by GraciAnne 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your father has turned weak, the new wife is making him believe things that she wants him to believe.
he is vulnerable and she has him where she wants him.
against you .kids..
she is selfish and doesn't want any family having anything of his after his death.
2006-11-25 12:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im am sorry about your mom my birth mother dies when i was 4. As for your dad he is letting his wife ruin whatever relationship you had with him. She is obviously jealous and doesnt want to share him so she is doing everything in her power to destroy your relationship. I am sure this is hard for you especially after losing your mother now you are slowly losing your father the only thing I know to tell you is you know who you are and that you havent done anything wrong and if your dad wants to believe is wifes accusations and be out of your life then its his loss. Hopefully things get better for the two of you and he will soon see she is doing her darnest to keep him away from you and he will divorce her. But in the meantime just try to live your life and hopefully he will want to be apart of it.
2006-11-25 13:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father may have been a good father but he sounds like a weak man. He didn't just get like ths when he remarried, so don't blame the new wife.
Stop thinking about what you're going to get when he dies and concentrate on connecting with him now.
Try writing him a letter telling him how you feel....or go for a visit.
If he doesn't try to meet you half way....maybe you'll have to accept how things are now.
2006-11-25 11:48:27 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this happen a number of times in my life, and it is very painful. My advice is to send your dad a card in the mail,or call him to invite him and his new wife out to lunch. I know what's important to you is a relationship with your Dad....not his money, so let them know that during the lunch. You are going to have to be the "bigger" person here and re-start the relationship, or it's not likely to happen. Good Luck! I know you're hurting!!
2006-11-25 11:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is b/s. i am man 46, who has 2 adult children and i talk to them on a regular basis. so pls do not catagorize all men like this. look back over ur childhood, did u and mon always double team him, put him down and treat him like dirt. these could be some of the reasons for his change of attitude, or his is just into living the rest of his life with a woman he loves. u r with a man/woman and there happiness is important to us. ooops if forgot women only care about them selves
2006-11-25 11:54:17 · answer #5 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your dads new wife is the boss now...
2006-11-25 11:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said it all,
his new wife brainwashed him...
happens all the time...
sad but true...
2006-11-25 11:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋