you love someone terribly...you even considered dying for that person... you did the best for that person...
but why do you always end up getting hurt?
is love like that?
sorry if i insulted some people when i say "love knows no justice"
it was my own belief about it
2006-11-25 11:41:51 · 11 answers · asked by crystal and clover 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Anthea ,
sweet girl, you can change your belief system but you are stuck in a rut! If one does not love one self fully then one cannot love another. When we get hurt;we often move towards love with preconceived expectation that sets us up for disappointment.. Most women have an abundance of preconceived notions about what love is , what love is "supposed to look like" We are flooded with images.... So many love stories, soap opera, romance novels etc, etc, etc,,....As we grow, mature and develop we reach a point where we need to reflect and self educate ourselves and come to terms that there will always be some pain connected to love. Relationships are hard work and often at the first sign of disappointment the downward spiral of hopelessness and hurts consumes our thoughts. And those thoughts become our reality. If one continually finds oneself getting hurt--- move through the pain, through it ! Don't stay stuck. Why would you stay any where that does not feel good & healthy? Change your mind, change your life.Then if you are able try to see what pattern exists in these "I always wind up getting hurt drama's) Once you identify the pattern you can be creative as to how you will choose to tak ethe steps to create the life you desire.....be creative, read a self help book there; are tons in any book store. Shift gears, change your paradigm and you'll be down the road with the confidence & knowledge that you are the master of your own fate. Take the first step...the second is easier. Practice new ways of being. don't be so quick to fall for cliches...like" love knows no justice"" wo is me I am hurt again!!! if you sing the same song to yourself over & over again you're brain washing that beautiful brain that does have the ability to think positive. It's a choice. Best wishes you can do it !
2006-11-25 12:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't always hurt. But if it does, that shouldn't surprise you. Love is a very exhaustive, invested practice. When you love someone, you give yourself to them. Thus, when they hurt you, no pain is worse. And when they bring you some kind of pleasure, "bliss" falls short of expressing the extent to which that makes you feel good.
I am sorry if you've been hurt. But don't stop loving just to avoid being hurt. Pain will find you in loneliness, too.
2006-11-25 20:02:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not loved until you lost.....As the quote states its all part of it....You do not realise how much you care for that person till you loose them....its a fact.....And yes I agree, love has no justice, but all is fair in love and war.....Sometimes you need to get your own justice.....
2006-11-25 19:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anthea,sounds like what you are experiencing is Conditional love, I'll love you if you do as i wish, I love you,you are mine,possesiveness, I can't bear to let you go,attachment.then this love turns to Hate,"hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", are if I can't have you no one can. anthea the essence of your being is unconditional love,try to experience an stay in this space . When you feel Love in your heart, the one you think you love is but the mirror to show you the love within your own heart.
2006-11-25 20:50:29 · answer #4 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.
love is something you have to be careful with.
remember, its not love that hurts, its BROKEN love.
love is the best feeling ever. broken love is the worst.
do not confuse these two.
you have to be smart in order to find love, and wise in order to keep it.
stay on track girly good luck.
2006-11-25 19:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by spoonman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the strict sense of the word,,, as defined,,, there is no LOVE in Justice.
Example: There is no money in poetry,,, but then, there is no poetry in money either.
2006-11-25 19:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by DIY Doc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats the point in dying for the person?
2006-11-25 20:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Spiderpig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think this happens with your 1st love .....anything after that u live and learn and hold a piece of yourself back .... self preservation ....
2006-11-25 19:47:31 · answer #8 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anthea Here a big news for you!...
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2006-11-25 19:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by mof p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...or sanity ;-) the pleasure of love is how it effects the neurobiological systems. it makes one high on all the "good" neurotransmitters. why shouldn't we be addicted to it?
2006-11-25 19:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by drakke1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋