We have been having issues since March 2006. He wanted a divorce and I did not. We decided to try to work things out. Well, I found out about the girlfriend and went directly to a lawyer. We have been trying to live together to get our finances in order. So today I started to gather some of his stuff and putting it in the garage. Told him he needs to leave no later than February. He tells me....I think we should try to just live together after we divorce and raise our children (13 and 16) I looked at him with disbelief. Do men really think they can have it all...girlfriend and ex wife?????
2006-11-25 11:37:55 · 22 answers · asked by Serendipity 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That would be completely nuts! And I don't think it would be the best environment for the kids either.
I lived with my ex for financial reasons for 2 months. It was horrible. The tension, the bitterness, the anger...it was difficult.
Think twice about it.
2006-11-25 11:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So now he thinks he can have his cake and eat it too. Life doesn't work that way. You were smart filing divorce in the first place. Don't let him run over you anymore. Your children are old enough to accept whats going on. I'm sure they know the circumstances behind the divorce.
Do not put anything in the garage. Make him get the hell out. He has no right to continue his crap. Make him understand. Don't bow down.
2006-11-25 11:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by Barb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give him an "A" for effort. It would be a sweet deal for him. Unless there is some specific reason to stay together after divorce, tell him "NO!" and send him out into the cold cruel world. As to the children, they're old enough to understand, and he'll have visitation privileges, so they can see each other.
2006-11-25 11:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a couple who did that. They ended a 23 year marriage and three years later....they STILL live together with their adult kids. Get THIS- the guy remarried TWO YEARS AGO! He still lives with the ex though and I heard the new wife just filed for divorce.
Wow! It's so hard to believe the "live with my ex-wife plan" blew up in his face like that............Truth is stranger than fiction.
You get the two-timing bum outta there sweetie. One of you needs to be sane in front of the children.
2006-11-25 11:59:04 · answer #4 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men do because some crazy women go along with their craziness.
Your children need to see a strong woman show some self-respect and it looks like you're doing that. Good for you.
2006-11-25 11:41:17 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes he does think he can have u both and for some reason u might be giving him that impression....Run...Get as far away from him as u can..So u can start over and make a life for yourself.You deserve a good man that loves only u.Good luck
2006-11-25 11:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nice of him to think about the children at this time but was he thinking about them when he decided to get a girlfriend? Tell him no.
2006-11-25 11:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by sweetre2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is completely crazy! It sounds like he wants his cake and wants to eat it too. Do you really want to stay with someone that was messing around? I would kick him out as soon as possible and try and to move on with your life without him in it!
2006-11-25 12:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure they do. Mainly, because they often can. And, not JUST men. Plenty of women also feel they can do anything, and others will happily make excuses for their idiotic ideas. Takers come in both sexes.
2006-11-25 12:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, this sounds disturbingly familiar to what my exwife offered me.... except with one more catch. She said we could stay in the same house, but I would have to turn one of the spare bedrooms into my room and then pay her RENT to stay in it!!! I was paying a mortgage payment on the home, and then on top of it, I was supposed to pay rent to live in my own home. Needless to say, she may be my exwife, but she is NOT my landlady!!!!!
Good luck with this bunch of donkey crap!!!!
2006-11-25 13:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by capt.jeepman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋