2006-11-25 11:17:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Did you have sex with this person? Then you are doomed.
Sex releases chemicals into your system-oxitosin-which bonds you and creates an attachment that too often overrides the wisdom that you ought to run for the hills. It is always wisest to get to know their character before exchanging addictive bodily chemicals.
2006-11-25 21:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by ontheroadagainwithoutyou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bercause what you like love admire is weaved into you that's why you have that feeling. It has brought you into connection into yourself. Like a holograph every particle of you shows the whole picture, them included. So you must unwind slowly without bitterness from that connection and reconnect to yourself without their reflection. You can't do it on a dime no matter how justified. or logical. Like a knot in your hair just keep wetting it down and brushing it out Lots of hair will come out on the brush and it hurts.
And if too many knots you take a good haircut (therapist/wisdom books reinvent yourself.) Reason why you should "Look before you Leap" with any relationship and Re-examine each day who the person shows himself to be and who you are. Repair yourself and be aware of all. Don't assume you can change the person or that you are wrong. Read wisdom books to make yourself an aware person.
"It is easier to get into a relatioonship than to get out...Fools rush in where angels fear to tread.Quick to anger slow to forgive... slow to anger quick to forgive. So it is with any set of virtues do the virtuous slowly and the retreat quickly rather than the other way around to avoid costly harmful mistakes.
2006-11-25 11:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by wilashakespeare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's biology, sort of. We could look at it from a psychological (more specifically, Freudian) point of view that something pleasing to the eye makes us innately attracted to it. This makes a comprimising situation, is homosexuality in-born or learned? What defines what is beautiful to us should be the question. Would it be what we learn or what we are born with, AKA the dispute between homosexuality/alternative lifestyles being natural or learned.
We don't necessarily fall in love with beauty the instant we see it despite their attitude, we just feel attracted to them, from a psychological standpoint. However, we are attracted to the beautiful due to our natural instincts which are being molded by our societal refinements. As it is, romantice love, as far as humans are concerned, is a relatively new concept. Humans are still animals, and we have created a much more complex and difficult system of finding a mate.
Moreover, despite my beliefs in love and having a "soul mate," it is common knowledge that we are one of two species (I believe it's two) that choose a single mate for a lifetime, ideally. Does it mean that we are basically breaking the laws of nature and forcing ourselves to re-create our biological feelings?
Sorry, I ranted a bit.
-Dan
2006-11-25 12:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by skidmarks56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you develop an emotional connection when your in love with someone, that can't be just turned off. It's something that goes away with time, although certain things can make the process faster. Like finding someone else to love, finding other things to do that keep you busy, or just plain hating them.
2006-11-25 11:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Nick T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is human nature I'm afraid, we are attracted to beauty, blame it on the media, fashion...everywhere. I lost the most wonderful person because of this, it didnt turn out that way, it kind of evolved into shallowness, she is a great person inside and out and I didnt see it...now i find myself still loving her, missing her and there is nothing i can do about it......all I can say is try to overcome your emotions, look for the good in that person and ignore any character flaws, after all that is what makes us human, unique. If you truly love this person, find out what makes you so crazy about them and exploit it, in a good way.
2006-11-25 11:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Eduardo A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vanity.
2006-11-25 12:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by Voodoid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that is a confrontation between our emotions and our rationale. Emotions often win (at least temporarily)
2006-11-25 11:27:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we still have idealistic views of what so badly want that person to be.
2006-11-25 11:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by songbird22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋