Just recently left my husband and, started having an affair with my boss 1 month ago. He said he wants to be with me and I want to be with him, but feels terrible about crushing her, she is from another country.We both have no kids and have been married less than 2 years. I left my husband, because I would have cheated on him, if I had not. Am I wasting my time with this new guy? Will he leave? Never thought I would end up in this mess, I was always against what is going on, but you can't help who you fall for.
2006-11-25 10:46:05 · 23 answers · asked by Lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it may work. why do you really want this new man? to go to him or to run away from something? is he giving you something you really want from your own husband? do what you want and don't listen to other's they aren't in your shoes, but may have valid points or information you could factor into your decision.
2006-11-25 11:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by tiafromtijuana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have placed yourself in an awful position.Yes your boss is a jerk but still. Perceptoin means all at work... you have screwed the pooch on that. Even if you looked him in the eye and said that you would appreciate a call before he comes over, say your wife is hassling you because she does not like not being able to plan ahead, turned and walked away, said anything the perception is still there. I pass no judgement.. I just know what I have seen in life. Usually the way it goes is that the wife leaves at some point leaves her husband for another that loves her and her alone. 28 is fun time but as women get older they change. She says no kids now but that may change. She leaves law school and you will no longer be necessary as again she will want a guy who just loves her. In most cases that is inevitable. She will want a grownup. This other girl may choose to move on. So now you have hurt feelings all around. You may choose to end it all but then your wife might get pissed. Congrats. You have set yourself up to screw your career and marriage. You are already see ing the fallout. Enjoy it now because I would bet that in a couple of years you get a divorce, she will get part of your money and you will be alone. Again I say nothing about morals or anything.... just cold truth.
2016-03-29 08:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by Aline 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say...no, he wont leave his wife. Why should he? He has you right where he wants you...in his bed.
Now you have to think about you. Do you really want a man who would cheat on his wife? Do you want to be the other woman?
These are some questions you have to ask yourself.
Think about how easy it was for him to cheat on his wife, a woman from another country who must feel very vulnerable right now knowing there is something wrong with her marriage, but has no clue what.
Go out with your girl friends see more of the fish in the sea before you settle for someone like him. Have some fun as a single woman.I tell you it's so much fun!!!
2006-11-25 10:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Prissie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ain't gonna like this but I think you should forget your boss, find yourself another job and start creating a new life for yourself. Don't rush into another relationship 'cos all you will do is make another mistake. Take time out to think about you, what you want from life, and start looking at why, after such a short time married, you felt the need to be unfaithful to your husband. Good luck.
2006-11-25 10:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sue S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, NO, he will not leave his wife. He has found that he can have you anyway, whether he leaves or not, so he is not going to leave her for you. You need to move on from this destructive situation, and try to make a better life for yourself. Is your boss going to like it when you tell him...NO!, so, there goes your job. All you'll have when you move on is your self-respect, but take that, and start over! Good Luck!!
2006-11-25 10:52:59 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but the odds are not in your favor..
It happens too often when an employee falls for the boss..
The boss gets on a power trip from it..
He wants his cake and wants to eat it too..
I wish you luck, but you might start looking for a more meaningfull relationship..
You can always give an ultimatum, make him decide now or never...
2006-11-25 10:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep in mind that if the relationship goes sour, it would be difficult for bith of you. also, there is a chance he might not leave his wife. don't use his power to move up in the company.....
p.s.
three ppl got fired at my moms job because of an affair between two people and a third person knew about it.
2006-11-25 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who leaves his wife for another woman is a man who leaves his wife for another woman. Not to be trusted.
What is it with women that fool around with a married man? Also, why didn't you wait awhile until you got used to life on your own before jumping into bed with another man??
2006-11-25 10:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave your boss. He is your boss for goodness sake you guys shouldn't be messing around together. Anyway how would you feel if you were his wife? Leave him if he is unfaithful enough to cheat on his wife what makes you think he wont cheat on you. Please leave him, dont wreck his family, his marraige, and her life.
Good Luck lady
*~R0siE~*
2006-11-25 10:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by lalalaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to leave one relationship to start another? With a person that is already involved in a relationship? Nuff said.....
2006-11-25 10:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by beeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋