am i lesbian???

Question

i never thought i was anything but straight but i cant help getting turned on by girls!! does this mean im bi??

i dont WANT to be bisexual!

oh yeah im only 14....

Answer 1

You are too young to know. Most teens are confused about their sexuality. That's why it's important to wait until your're an adult before having sex.

Answer 2

Considering your age, I'd say its a phase. Going through puberty involves a lot of talk about sex and thinking about sex. It just may be that your having a sexual response to your fantasising and curiosity, it doesn't mean your automatically bisexual or gay.

You mentioned in your additional comment that you didn't WANT to be bisexual. That tells me you come from a very close-minded and unloving family. Only you will know for sure how you feel about sex and relationships.

No one can tell you your straight, gay, or bisexual. You have to be honest with yourself, and trying to mold yourself into being straight or gay because of someone else's expectations will only keep you miserable. If your friends and familiy truely love you for who you are then they will make every effort to understand and let you sort through your feelings about sex without pressuring you to be one or the other.

If you want to be happier keep an open mind and try not to classify yourself as being straight, bisexual or gay. As you start dating and have closer relationships you'll be able to refine your sexual identity. Your sexuality (whether straight, gay, or bisexual) is only a single aspect and is not the end-all-be-all definition of who you are as a person.

Answer 3

I don't think it's important to choose a label for yourself at 14 years of age. You may be a lesbian, you may be bi-sexual, you may not be either. Just wait for awhile and see whom you really have romantic or feelings of love for. Even if you are a lesbian, there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 4

Yes sweets....If your digging the girls..ITS SOOO OKAY..TRust me..You dont have to talk about it or even do anything until your ready..This happened to me..I fought it (about your age) Then around 16 (I was like screw it I like women Im just not gonna tell anyone..or act on it..WELLL At 17 I told a guy friend..and then at 18 moved to California and 2months later had me first girl experience...Ive been with mostly women sinceIt was the BEST.....My advise to you...JUST GO WITH what FEELS RIGHT TO YOU..BUT DONT shut things out cause you dont want to feel them...Please! this is just one part of who you are..Make sure you continue with school..Graduate college..and Date who ever you want...SCREW ALL the people who say such negative things..Watch the "L word" - Dvds(I luv this show because it was the first to show women I could relate to..You might appreicate it aswell..Also for teens "south of nowhere" is great here is the link: http://www.the-n.com/ntv/shows/index.php?id=531
Click on videos to see the episodes: some are clips & some run 30 min long..you may like. (Sweets Just be YOU---And whatever that maybe..is just fine : ) *Hug*

Answer 5

Well, if you're attracted to women, you're either bisexual or lesbian. There's a lot of us out there. It's perfectly normal. Embracing your sexuality can lead to a very happy life. Learn to accept yourself. It may take time. Good luck!

Answer 6

Yes, you're bi. What in the world would turn you on with another woman? She has what you have. And she can't do all the things a man can do. She'll have to buy what a man is blessed with.

Answer 7

Obviously you are at least bi. Maybe youre lesbian, if guys dont rev your motor.

Answer 8

You are at a confusing age... most girls have crushes on other girls... they just don't act on it... That is what makes a lot of "straight" people different from homosexual people.

Answer 9

I wouldn't jump to conclusions- I went to an all girls school and trust me, at that age we all had crushes on some of our seniors.

Answer 10

be bisexual orstraight maybe even so you can alway do a thresome its good for your health