how can you stop having low self esteem?

Answer 1

just have confidence in yourself. believe in yourself. stop caring about what they think. its easier said then done but makes life better to be confident

Answer 2

See a professional for counseling and medication. The low self-esteem is probably a product of your depression. Sometimes it takes awhile to overcome a low self-esteem, esp. if you've felt that way for years, and a professional can help you through that. You can find out what caused the problem in the first place and how to overcome it. And yes, I have been in that situation. It's something I still struggle with to some extent.

Answer 3

Try changing your "inner dialog". When you feel down, blue or realize that self esteem is close to the root of a problem stop and ask what your inner dialog is. Are you saying to yourself, "She is prettier than I am" or "I'm such a loser to not doing such & such" or "I'm a bad person because...." or other such negative statements? If so, stop and change your perspective. Don't compare yourself to others. Find something good to say about yourself at least once a day and especially when you start doubting your abilities, looks, etc. Keep a notebook and jot down things that happened during the day and your reactions. If you reacted in a self-deprecating way, change the statement and find one good thing in your look, activity, thought process.

Here is a list of books (paperbacks around $10-12) that are quite helpful:

The Self-Esteem Workbook by Glenn R. Schiraldi

The Self-esteem Companion: Simple Exercises to Help You Challenge Your Inner Critic & Celebrate Your Personal Strengths by Patrick Fanning (2005)

I have found the first book particularly helpful. Just remember it takes time, practice and repetition. If you're able to, I would enhance these publications with personal counseling/therapy. Sometimes it's easier for someone to help us point out how we're defeating ourselves.

Good luck and remember, you're worth it regardless of what you inner dialogue tells you! :)

Answer 4

Well first of all you have to realize that low self esteem comes from your own mind. You are the only person who can control that. Find your inner strength.
You are fine just the way you are and are capable of great things. Just remember that when you start to doubt yourself.
There's always someone prettier than you and always someone uglier. They're fatter or thinner or smarter or dumber. You fit right in with all the rest of us.
Just be the best person you can be. Don't apologize for being yourself and don't believe people who try to put you down.

Answer 5

Fake like you have high self esteem until other peopel believe it, then you'll believe it when they do, or if not, do whatever you can to logically reason on the fact that you're not lower than anyone else, and believe it no matter how bad you feel like it's not true. The low self esteem will pass in time, when you go over the reasons why you feel like you're low and accept them and move past them.

Answer 6

By doing something that is a real accomplishment or by helping others. Never by just the words of a psychological construct, which is an artificial inflation of self esteem, that pops at the first prick. Self esteem is an over played concept, that is fuzzy in definition and impossible to diagnose.

Answer 7

begin doing actions that produce positive self-regard.

seek out another person who suffers from self-esteem. Placing your own concerns aside, place your full focus on that person. You will be surprise before you are half-way through that a new sense of good will enter your life.

go on...go try it...

Answer 8

I just learned this in my human relations class. The book says to talk to yourself (self-talk) and say, "I'm going to be happy, I'm not going to let this bother me, I'm ok, People like me." Ok, I made the last part up but seriously, if you are putting yourself down, stop as soon as realize you are doing it and make some positive statement about yourself.
I don't think I'm making much sense, sorry.

Answer 9

Easy, I don't have low self-esteem already. So I guess I don't need to stop.

Answer 10

Go to the store and buy some High esteem. On special offer at Boots Chemist this week.

Just cheer up honey, thats all you need to do.

Answer 11

Put on a smile and don't be quiet. Get into talks and don't be shy to say hi. Walk up to somebody and start a conversation. Talk a bout a new movie that just came out. Always lift your head up high! :)