We had been married for 5 years, no kids, and just last year we started workinh at the same company. we having problems with our marriage but normal, About 2 months ago, I started notecing a change in his behavior, at the same time that he started getting closer to this girl. (to make matters worse, she is also going to the process of divorcing and she has 2 kids). After confronting him many times, he finally assumed that something was going on between them and things got so bad between us, he said was my foult because I never put atte, hat I decided to move out of his live and the house. The process of getting over him could be easer if we did not work at the same place, and had to see each other every single day. I am very close to get my permanet residence, and once that I came this far, I don't want to give up easely to him, just by signning the divorce. Dispate all the hate and pain between us, I still love him, and I need help to control this feelings and move on with my lif
2006-11-25 10:16:40 · 10 answers · asked by prada01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The blessing is the two of you have no children in common. And I would not take any responsibility in this at all. He should be ashamed of himself for telling you it was your fault. No, it is his lack of self control. Be grateful, now you can move on with your life and find someone with the same values and ideas of what a marriage is. Do whatever you have to do to get through this, and take your time. Don't allow him to rush you into anything. He is the one that stepped outside of the marriage. And the other women should be ashamed of herself. Her marriage is ending so she thought she would ruin someone else marriage. I feel sorry for her children they have to grow up in a household with a mother with no morals. good luck and God bless****
2006-11-25 10:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not entirely sure what the problem is, who's doing what with who, or what the desired end result is supposed to be. You are obviously a resident alien married to a US citizen and you're worried about your status if your marriage breaks up before you get permanent resident status. I'd say give up your sham of a marriage and go home.
2006-11-25 18:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie.. you need a day at the spa. A husband like that is NOT what any woman wants. It hurts a lot at first, but as you become more independent, the little things you accomplish with out your ex's B.S.. will really make you feel good. Eventually you will meet a man that is worthy of what your ex couldn't keep for himself!! Good Luck!
2006-11-25 18:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Shawna C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating was bad enough but now since you two work together at a company people in the company will now also know your version of what happened and his version and believe me when men are caught we will try to blame the woman and make you feel like crap. Is this worth it for you to go through this with him? get your permanent resisdence and I would forget about him....Believe me people at work will say...Guess what I heard....If you like drama you might want this to hold onto him even if thats not the case...move on
2006-11-25 18:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by chazz007s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your hubby is going to flat out put it in your face like he is with a co-worker of you both, than i doubt he has any respect for either of you ladies...a tough situation with having to see the two of them each day together but keep going to work and im sure sooner than later you'll see that she will end up in the same situation as you or he might get the boot from her..and if not..maybe the two of them are so shallow they just deserve each other. move on and find happinessfar away from him...good luck
2006-11-25 18:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by dave v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry about all this. It sounds terrible and to have to see him at work everyday, that must be unbearable. I'll pray that you get through all this and that God will lead you to greener pastures. You must really hurt right now. I hope you have family and some close friends who can give you support and comfort to grieve this relationship and to move on. Best of luck.
2006-11-25 19:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't hate him or her for that matter, may be they did you a favor. Speak to him, and go on your mary way. What he did was not showing you no respect. But you need to forgive, so you can move on with your life. It is going to take time, but each day it will get easier. And then it will be like, what was his name? you know, the man I use to be married to! (smile)
2006-11-25 18:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so lucky that you didn't have kids with him. You will get over him completely before you know it. Until then it will be like going through the pains of the damned, but it will end!
Do whatever you have to to get a different job and do not have any contact with him. It will just take longer and longer to get over him the more you subject yourself to being around him.
Scrape that loser off your shoes! Welcome to the happiest time of your life--it's just around the next corner!
2006-11-25 18:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there too. I lost faith in a spouse and I lost my way too.
I finally stopped fighting one day and I decided I needed help. I found my answer in a talk with God and I have never stopped. It has been a great bastion for my life. Try it, you may find it most rewarding.
2006-11-25 18:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by spacekitty12345 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're right and it's best that you just move on with your lif.
PS - whats a lif?
2006-11-26 09:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋