My Ex gf is pregnant, We split up at the end of may because she cheated on me, and iv only just seen her since we split up and she is pregnant, she has got a fairly big bump, but she was quite a chubby girl anyway. Is it possible it could be mine. I realy hope not because im not ready for a kid.
2006-11-25 10:16:05 · 26 answers · asked by Steve9000 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well u must forgive her and get back to her
she needs u
ur the father of her kids
act as mature not a kid
try to be fair in ur life
2006-11-25 10:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think you should think about things realisticly as you said your ex cheated on you which means the baby has a 50% chance it isn't yours so the only way you will know is to have a paternity test done when the baby is born.
People always say they are not ready for a baby but it isn't the babies fault and at the end of the day if that baby is yours your ex didn't concieve it alone, you did play a big part in that so you will just have to be a responsible person and be a father.
Don't screw up an opportunity to have something so wonderful in your life, just make sure you explain to your ex that you want to know if the baby is yours and that you will be there if it is.
Good Luck
2006-11-25 10:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by gingey10 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will have to do the HONORABLE THING. After the baby is born VOLUNTEER for DNA testing. Hopefully the other man will do the same thing.
If the woman is going on welfare the DNA tests will be court mandated.
READY OR NOT if the child is yours, you will have to do the HONORABLE, mature, and manly thing and either pay child support to the mother or the State or sign away rights to the child if the mother chooses to put the child up for adoption.
Fathering a child does not prove you are a man. All it proves is that you are male animal.
So, are you a MAN or just a male animal? If you are proven to be the child's father you can be a man and take full resposibility for what has happened. Or, you can walk away and have the state force you to be a man.
Your choice kiddo.
2006-11-25 10:22:25 · answer #3 · answered by WhatAmI? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up in May and you can tell that she has a largish bump then it could be yours. November would put her at barely six months. I would find out how far along she is and go from there. If she was cheating on you and is that far along she could be pregnant with the other guys child. I would suggest having a paternity test done after the baby is born so you have peace of mind.
2006-11-25 10:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Becky R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Surely if the baby was your she would have told you by now... Perhaps you should contact her and ask this will save all the stress and worry, especially as your not ready to be a father.. then you won't want her turning up at your door with baby in tow..
Another alternative is she may not know who the daddy is??? You may have to wait until the baby is born before she has a DNA test... Hard situation, which must get sorted...
2006-11-25 10:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ready or not, if the kids yours its yours. Get a DNA test once he/she is born.
If the kid is yours congratulations, you'll be a father, try and be a dad, I've known a lot of 'men' who have denied paternity out of fear of the CSA, simply because they wanted the money for living the single life, therefore if the kid is yours step up and play your part,but don't stay with the mother simply out of 'duty.'
If the kid isn't, BUY CONDOMS!!!!
2006-11-25 10:29:17 · answer #6 · answered by Hendo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She would have to be a minimum of 7 months pregnant for it to be yours, if she cheated on you and is trying to say it is yours get a paternity test then you can be sure other than that stop worrying. Cross your bridges when you come to them not before.
2006-11-25 10:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by blackwidow2408 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well find out how far gone she is then work the dates out if she is less than 7 months it isnt urs else there is a chance it could be but some girls look really big and arnt that far gone so dont go on her size im 6 months and am alot bigger than my friend who is 8 months so dont worry just talk 2 her !!
2006-11-26 02:46:57 · answer #8 · answered by taz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has she come to you claiming the child is yours? If not, I wouldn't worry about it. If she does, get a paternity test. If the child is yours, you need to take care of it, for the next 18 years at least.
Using protection doesn't look so bad now does it?
2006-11-25 10:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for you situation. However, when you have sex, you have to realize that things like this do sometimes happen. You guys took on that responsiblity. If she is pregnant and it's yours, than the 2 of you need to do what is best for your child. It isn't about you anymore. The 2 of you made the choice become physical with one another, this child didn't. Please do what is best and good luck.
2006-11-25 10:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Most women will tell the truth about this issue. It is not the child's fault that it's parents are not together any more - if you did not want children you both should have discussed it and both taken responsibility for contraception.
2006-11-25 10:25:14 · answer #11 · answered by Jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋