how do i teach my ten year old daughter not to be so permiscous?

Question

she has a boyfriend,shes lying to boys about her age,on myspace she's got somebodies else's picture and she's seven year's older than she is, I am just worried that something bad could become of all these things.

Answer 1

You ground her and take away her computer privileges. She's 10. You better nip this in the bud before she becomes a teenager.

Answer 2

Mom, she's 10, and she's saying she's seventeen?


Well, first of all, she's going to get somebody arrested.

Enroll her in the after school program so she can focus on her homework from 3 to 4, and then participate in an activity with kids HER OWN AGE.

Then see if she doesn't want to join girl scouts, four h, soccer, the local kid's Ymca or we have Champions for Life. Insist she choose an activity.

No more computer. No more IM. Nothing. Watch some cartoons.

This is real hard to reverse but she's so young, you can't help but succeed. She's going to rant and rave like she has rights. She doesn't. Some pedophile is going to figure her out and then there's trouble like not seen before. Put the parental restrictions on the computer. If you don't know how to do it call the manufacturer or ask on Yahoo answers.

Something bad will come. You need to stop it now. Baby girl can go take some swimming lessons or something. Something age appropriate.

Other behaviors: wanting a boyfriend (make sure she has sleepovers at your house with her girlfriends) dressing inappropriately (when she's in school, toss anything that a 10 year old should not be wearing, including tee shirts with explicit or suggestive comments) Go with your gut. You are right. Then take her shopping. Mother and daughter. Only purchase appropriate wear. If she fit piches, take her home and go get her some plain tee shirts. Nix on the mini skirts. If she can't bend over to pick up something on the floor without exposing her underwear it's TOO Short. Make up....NOT.....when she gets to high school.....cover all your issues now while she's ticked. Then she can get over it all all at once.

She's compromised her safety big time. Go back on the site and say, "This is Suzie's mom. She's not going to be on anymore." Then predators will know a parent got wise.

Answer 3

It's not a could become' it's a will! First you set an example to her yourself, which you may already be doing. You ask her about her friends and make sure you know more about them before allowing her to become so involved make sure you know something about her friend's parents and what kind of environment she may be exposed to while there. You lay down ground rules and apply consequences and see them through if the rules are broken. Then you go into the settings on your computer and you block my space from your p.c. and you go online and show her all the girls who have been abducted from talking to people online. You monitor her computer use, making sure she uses the computer near you at all times where you can see what it is she is doing online, and filter out what she is and isn't exposed to with music and television. Find some after school activities geared towards her age group where she can meet new friends who aren't trying to be more mature then they truly are. And most imprtantly, stick to your rules, enforce that you love her and have her best interest at heart, and don't allow her to give you any guilt trips!! Remeber you're the parent, she's the child and when she's grown up to be a productive adult in society with good ethics and morals, she'll be ever grateful to you that you brought her up the way you have. Being a mom is tough, it's not always easy, especially when we don't want to be the bad guy. But sometimes being a little more strict is the best thing to do.

Answer 4

Their are certain things on the computer that you can block, also you can have the control, and see what ever she goes into, on the computer! Now you need to be more into controlling her, you are her parent, she is not yours! Being promiscuous at such an early age, is a learned thing. she has got it from someone. Have her talk to a therapist. Start teaching her to be a lady, enroll her in the girl scouts. This will be very good for her, plus she will have a lot of fun. Please put some effort into this, we do not want to lose her, in the cracks!

Answer 5

Get on myspace, and click on the FAQ. It includes information on deleting your child's account. 10 years of age is below the legal age limit for myspace.

You should absolutely restrict her computer usage. You should decide if that means parental controls or forbidding computer use altogether. If you are worried about what she does on the computer when you are not home, you should remove the power cable from the computer and keep it with you when you go to work each day.

This child is getting out of control. If you need to talk to her school counselor, then do it. If you are worried about predators online, contact the police and ask them to help you find out who is talking to your child. (I guarantee, no 17-year-old will be fooled into thinking she's his age once he starts having conversations with her).

You're right, something bad could become of these things. She could be attacked and killed unless you do something RIGHT NOW.

Answer 6

you need to talk to her. take away the computer priviledges, especially the myspace. she's very young. why does she have a boyfriend? she is about 6 years away from that stage! how is your marriage? is her father spending time with her?
you need to nip this in the bud before she gets any older. kids her age know nothing about responsibility. hopefully, she has not become sexually active (it happens), and is just playing around at having a "boyfriend". are you supervising her boyfriend and her when they are together? you need to. if she seems to be getting out of hand, speak to her honestly. share some of your past, if it is relevent. if all else fails, talk to a therapist.
good luck

Answer 7

First of all, get her off of MySpace. She's way too young! Second of all, tell her that her 17 year old friend is flirting with jailbait. If he touches her in the next 8 years, you could have him arrested for statitory rape! Third, you might want to get her into some activities that are more age appropriate.

Answer 8

What are you thinking of to allow a ten years old girl to date?. She is still a baby.. Not even started to grow up yet. Get real!!!!Delete her myspace and get some ground rules worked out NOW. Install parental control software on her pc and make sure that you monitor her usage.

Answer 9

Well you are the adult, so it is time to take away the computer, tell every guy that calls the house that she is not allowed to talk to boys for the next 6 yrs. Do not let her hang out with any girls that act like her behavior or only allow girls to come over to your house under your supervision. Also don't allow her to wear any skimpy clothing or makeup. She is ten, you do not want something bad to happen to your little girl. Also for kicks for her show her the sex offender listing for your city, it will scare the sh++ out of her to see how many sick people are out there to take advantage of children.

Answer 10

Take away her computer privelages. Have a father to daughter talk to her about the dangers fo socializing with strangers. Make her watch Dateline to Catch a Predator.If you've never heard of this show it's about men who prey on inocent young children. I am 12 and i watch this show , it makes you think twice before you talk to strangers on the internet. If nothing else works give her a beating that always fixes things. Set up Safety Settings on your computer.

Answer 11

take everything away from her. you are the parent not her.no matter what you do she's going to hate you. so you might as well make her safe anyways. than later in life she will appreciate how much you cared. all so find an educational movie on what can happen to kids when they get careless on the internet and else where. Step up and be the parent

hope that helps