Ok so my mom is 44 and her fiance is 28, and she just found out shes pregnant...How should I handle this ??

Question

Im just kinda freakin out but I dont want to hurt her feelings.. What should I do ??

I want to support them and I will but its just weird lol

Im going to support her shes my mother I love her, you people dont have to be assholes about it.. Its just a simple question on how would you feel... Yeah its her life and not mine I know that, but its just still weird.. Im aloud to feel that way !!!!!!!!!!

and another thing.. my mom is sick, she just had a brain tumor removed and two more grew back, Im just worried about her and the baby.. if god forbid something terrible happens to her throughout the pregancy or while shes having the baby.. I'll love my sister or brother with all my heart, but I dont want to lose my mother !

PS, sorry in the heat of the moment I spelled some words wrong ! sorry . ... lol...


And btw, my mom was givin a year to a year and a half to live because of the tumor and if anything should happen to her Im the only one that she trusts to raise the baby, the father without her will not be able to raise it alone hes already made that clear.. So I am involved.. And I have children of my own too... so there !

Answer 1

Okay...how can all of you say that this is none of her buisness...are you crazy....it sounds like you are still fairly young and live at home. You need to talk to your mom and tell her that you are just confused..that you want her to be happy and that want to support them, but that you just want to talk. Sweetie...this involves you just as much as it involves them. Good Luck and be open with your mom..she will appreciate your honesty.

Answer 2

I am 26 years old, and my 45 year old dad, and his 39 year old girl friend just recently had a baby. My advice to you is to be as supportive as you can possibly be. I was supportive to my dad in this situation, and my sister was not. This had really hurt their relationship during the entire pregnancy. The baby was born two weeks ago, and they are just now beginning to talk again. Enjoy the time that you will have left with your mom, and look at this baby for what it will be, a ray of sunshine in all the darkness that is going on. My situation was similar in some ways, but also very different. It is normal to feel the way that you are feeling, anyone who wouldn't feel this way in your situation is crazy. Give the news some time to sink in. I think that if you do not support your mother in this decision that you may regret it. I have heard of some breast cancer studies where the hormones from the pregnancy temporarily halt the cancer from spreading. Have the doctors mentioned anything like this at all? Good luck with whatever decision that you make. It will be a rough road no matter what. When people find out that there is a twenty-six year age difference between me and my brother they think that it is strange, but who are they to judge?

Answer 3

I can understand that you are a little freaked, but try to get used to the idea. Most importantly how does your mother feel? Have you asked her? Sometimes in life people get so wrapped up in thier own feelings about someone elses life and forget to be concerned with how the other people feel. right now your mother maybe verry happy, if she is so should you. isnt that the most important thing for your loved ones to be happy? Also she might not be she could be scared or worried about what you think. To make the transition better for everyone be the bigger person and support her and dont worry about the age difference. Men have been doing it for years and noone blinks, but as soon as a women does it everyone freaks. Just be yourself and try to be happy for her as long as shes happy.

Answer 4

It is so nice that you want to be supportive. Just let her know that because I believe she is going to need all the support she can get. Although I don't believe that age difference should matter, it usually does in the long run. However, I wish you both the best and I think your mother is a really lucky woman to have you. PS, it would wierd me out too.

Answer 5

Just treat her like an adult. She's engaged to this man, which means the possibility for children in the future wasnt completely unthought of.

She's a grown woman, he's a grown man, and theyre allowed to do what the want, without asking you, or wondering how you might react.

Even make babies.

its weird, yeah, but its part of life. She's still a woman with needs and desires, and those needs and desires include sex, love, and in all possibility, babies.

Same as you. :)

It is weird, but you'll survive. Just be supportive, and enjoy this time with her and later with your new sibling.

Answer 6

dont worry about the age gap,be supportive and understanding im sure your lil bro or sis will think ur so cool too being so much older than them , my half brother is 30 yrs older than me i used to be so proud of that, until i became a teenager and someone pointed out that he was also 2 yrs older than my mum, i went through a patch of thinking of my parents as sick weirdos it did cause a bit of friction, but looking back at how my parents loved us and cared for us and protected us i realised thats family weirdness and sickness is just in the minds of people looking in, as long as ur mum and partner love each other and love the baby then no matter how ill your mums been she is still alive still has needs and the baby will be loved thats all that matters you should be proud of her and seeing as you havent turned your back on them your doing a great job handling it already

Answer 7

Congratulate her, ask if there's anything you can do to help, *and* BE HONEST that you feel a little funny about it - as long as you're not offensive, I doubt she'll be upset about it, and I truly believe honesty is better than pretending you don't have any qualms or weird feelings about it! Tell her you're happy for her, but it's going to take you some time to get used to the idea. Make sure she knows that ultimately you just want her and her new family to be happy and helathy.
Good luck!

Answer 8

It's okay to feel weird. When I was 15, my dad started dating a woman that was 20. He was 35 at the time. A few years later, they got married, then I got married to my husband the next year. We both got pregnant at the same time, and our daughters are 3 months apart, mine being the older of the two. It's weird, but me and my step-mother are pretty close now. The only taboo is her and my dad's sex life!

Answer 9

When I got pregnant (intentionally, I am 23 and hubby is 29), my brother told me my baby was a mistake and I shouldn't have her. My dad was completely unsupportive and would not even talk to me. I am 28 weeks pregnant now, and still have not forgiven either of them. I was in tears for weeks. My point is, sometimes we disagree with the descisions people make, but it isn't always the best idea to tell them. I would try to be as supportive as you can of your mother. She will need lots of help in the next few months and who better to help her out than you? Hope it works out!

Answer 10

Since you seem more mature than she, tell her to see a Doctor and get good care. Be supportive of her, she is human you know! And we all make errors in choices, maybe she wanted to get pregnant, even if she didn't, a child is developing and deserves to be loved and both the child and mother are going to need good prenatal care. You will get over the jilted feelings, you know that, even as you question them. Love your mom and be a help.

Answer 11

feels like she desires Stacy and Clinton from "What to no longer positioned on". :) tell her the actuality. Her mom sounds very controlling, and not waiting to permit bypass of her "Little female". and she or he's merely playing alongside! tell her to enhance up. clarify to her that 28 3 hundred and sixty 5 days olds are seen adults and not infants. It feels like she is afraid to get old and resides in a delusion worldwide.