I am at this moment feeling very angry. the reason being I have tonight confirmed via a friend that my ex lied through her teeth to me the last month we were together. We parted because I sensed this but now have the proof. I have composed an e mail because I want them to know I know and that they never once had the courage to admit or say sorry. I was the victim of harsh defensive agressions if the subject broached. Do I send it or fester forever more.? Thing is this person claims to be a devout church member attending regularly. I want them to face themselves over this and know that to play with anothers mind is cruel.
2006-11-25 09:08:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Rise above it, get over it, and move on. Wait at least 24 hours, then send your message. But pare it down; don't unleash a tirade of vicious verbal vomit & verbiosity on anyone--no poison pen letters, no childish lashing out, no hit-backs. Simply state, "I know what you did and how you lied and cheated, even though you knew I trusted you. You hurt me badly, but I'll get over you quickly, just like a case of food poisoning. You two deserve each other." Then, go pray for them. And remind yourself that you are an honorable, decent person, who deserves someone who is also honorable and decent. That person will come to you. And in time, all this hurt you feel right now will be history.
2006-11-25 09:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by jdaylily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with your self, would you be sending them this email to make your self feel better or because you truely wanted them to look at there own actions. they may have been cruel but do you think that sending this to them would really make a difference to them, if they are as harsh you you say a few words will not change them in the blink of an eye. i surgest that you give it a week, if you have proof then it will still be there in a week. if you still feel the same and feel that emailing them would help them then do it.
2006-11-25 17:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by mandy and steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know what happened but when i wanted to write a letter to my ex i did. i put every vile attrocity ever commited by the vermin and then reread it a few days later and cut half of it out as it was way outta proportion. in a week from the whole page there was like 2 paragraphs worth of points i needed to make and i sent it then.
its more sincere and it cuts straight to the point as well as making you feel a lot better. whereas if you send it straight off you may regret half the things you write later
2006-11-25 17:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by DesertRose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it, you were the one who was lied to, there is no need to think of the guilty party's feelings, as long as it does make you feel better. But be careful you don't get the pang of guilt after.
2006-11-25 17:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by elhodgie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a couple of days and if you still feel the same, send it.
Sometimes you can say things better when you've cooled off.
2006-11-25 17:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by malaga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes u do have to let people know or the will never learn
2006-11-25 17:13:59 · answer #6 · answered by lil pit cat 71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
........send it!! Have some balls man - you're not even come close to hurting them as much as they hurt you so it don't matter!!
2006-11-25 17:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it.....this happens every day to loads of people ...lifes a *****.!
2006-11-25 17:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by notgnal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send it!
2006-11-25 17:13:47 · answer #9 · answered by phudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋