Why are men such insecure jerks.?

Question

HE can have "friends", but I can't.

HE can have an "EX", but whoooo boy, mention MY ex.....

it's not JUST him.......it seems to be all the guys I've dated and married, oh, I 've only been married once. And he has died.

Answer 1

Hey Cindy ,

I have seen some of my female friends complain about their guys being insecure especially when it comes to other men. You mentioned your bf can have "friends" and you can't?

Please not every guy is like this, his actions aren't rational. Clearly he is insecure or doesn't trust you enough to be your own person. I hope you drop him and find a guy who cares enough to treat you as an equal. Nobody deserves anything less.

Another thing. There are good hearted men out there. Please don't let your experience with this one sad individual affect your views on all men. You'll become a better person for it.

I wish you nothing but the BEST!!! :)

Answer 2

Abnormal insecurities (e.g. judging others, without provocation or just cause, for the feels) come from weakness and laziness. Instead of manning up to address life problems and personal insecurities and weaknesses, guys who are insecure turn to judge others in an attempt to lift themselves and put others down. I usually display more patience than most people. I forgive the insecure several times before parting ways with them or blasting them back to put them in their place so that they will think twice before repeat the same vile acts against others. I watch them soak in their own failures and shortcomings while seeing them eat their own words. An insecure jerk will cook up any criticism or judgment in his mind. There is no limit. If he says I study too much, even though I don't at all study a lot for the amount of work I have, he will stop once he himself is failing to meet his academic goals. Then he will hop onto another topic like implying I am not attractive to girls. Once he finds out he is embarrassingly wrong about that, he might mock me for being poor next. I cannot compliment enough the level of personality, maturity, and beauty of some girls who have checked me out or considered me good enough for them. The only thing I am waiting for is one who earns my complete trust. A jerk is his own worst enemy who perpetuates his own sorry cycle of insecurities.

Feel insecure --> too lazy and afraid to address personal problems --> judge other people to feel good about self --> insecurities/weaknesses/problems swell and worsen --> repeat cycle for more failures and insecurities added to his sorry list of shortcomings.

Answer 3

the queation begs to be asked, how did, or rather why do you go out with him