What should I do?
2006-11-25 09:06:55 · 14 answers · asked by arabontheloose 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hi, Shyness was my problem for a long time--what got me over it actually was going to law school--its not a place for a shy person. Even college afforded me anonymity and an ability to get by without "being noticed." My loss too.
I'm not saying go to law school to cure your situation, but you have to do something extremely hard--just keep putting yourself out there. Don't try too hard, don't act desperate, because people sense that. You just have to force yourself into social situations and be yourself. The rest will come by itself. IF you have a friend who is at ease in social situations, play second banana to that friend for awhile....that person will be a magnet for others, eventually you will make friends who will be accepting of and responsive to your views and thoughts.
Other possibilities--take a class that requires an oral presentation, take a public speaking class. Take a class that requires collaboration with others, that will assure that you mix with people and that you have to share your views--since they took the class too, they will be open to you and just as vulnerable as you.
The key is to keep trying, you have to overcome it at each step, the nerves of entering a room full of people, the stress of trying feel and look natural when nobody seems to be paying attention, learning the art of knowing how to interject with a comment at the right time....etc...its stressful no doubt and not easy....but like most things it gets easier with practice.
2006-11-25 09:13:23 · answer #1 · answered by William E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself suffer from shyness. When I'm around a lot of people that I don't know, I start to get uneasy. You should just try practicing that you are meeting people in front of your mirror, practicing what to say. When people don't respond when you are being 100% compeletly you and they don't respond, that's their loss. If they don't see the nice things about you, then they're not worth talking to anyway!
2006-11-25 09:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sierra. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people generally respond to honast people, anyways who cares about other people sounds like you got the right idea and find people you get along with, I;m telling ya after I got over being so shy life is no much more enjoyable well in a lot of ways but after awhile you wish you didnt see so much kinda like you'd rather not know certain people or situations existed, anyways go for it life is short and everyday could be your last right, Good Luck KIMBUR
2006-11-25 09:12:25 · answer #3 · answered by KIMBUR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this same problem. IT usually takes me a long time to get to open up to new people.
I kind of ease into them,slowing showing more of myself as I learn who they are and how they will react to me.
I have to say,it seems like it's working. I have a lot of real close friends,but at times I know people wish I could be more open.
2006-11-25 09:11:33 · answer #4 · answered by explodingtoothpicks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You should say more. Even when you don't want to. People will love you more. And you have a lot of people that do.
2006-11-25 09:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be confident! Just believe that you are great and then you won't be so shy. Don't be overly sensitive if someone blows you off. Just think that they just missed a great conversation with you.
2006-11-25 09:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gotch.......do not feel bad. So many people feel the same. I was that way and I thought I had that social anxiety disorder. It took me a while but I adopted if they dont like me so be it. I have to tell myself that when I go somewhere most of these people I will never see again, so I am going to have fun. The ones I will see are the ones usually worth talking too. You dont need to have millions of friends. Find a friend in yourself, and most of all BE YOURSELF, and people will responed to your integrity. P.S. Practice makes perfect and dont be afraid.
2006-11-25 09:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait on your thoughts, unless it fits right. first ask them their thoughts, their opinions they will probably respond and might even ask you what yours are. commend them on something they said or did in class, work wherever. remember asking don't get pushy or too personal. be yourself. also remember you won't get everyone to warm up to you and respond friendly, just not way it is, don't let it stop you.
2006-11-25 09:22:18 · answer #8 · answered by falling leaves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about you talking. Get THEM to talk. Ask good questions and keep them chatting and they will think you are the world's greatest conversationalist.
2006-11-25 09:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by masha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 17:38:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋