my bf spent thanksgiving with my family cuz his family lives far away and he's here for school. and my family acted nice and all that in front of him, but then, like after he left, my family told me they didn't like him and all that stuff..because my family, if they don't like the guy/the girl, they don't like them..and they'd never realize that even if you're happy with them..and if you don't break up w/him/her they always talk crap about you behind your back and they'd keep bothering you and they laugh at you and they do all sorts of stuff that you just had to break up..everyone's undergone that..and it's so sad because i love my bf and i'm happy with him but my family doesn't like him and all..what should i do? please don't say, ignore them, or just talk to them..it never works..my other sister's tried that a million times. this is more serious than it sounds. please help?
2006-11-25 09:06:53 · 13 answers · asked by ilovedotsx3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well Pinky a lot of parents just believe that the person that their daughter/son just isn't right for them. It's natural and someday when you are a parent you'll probably have similar thoughts about your kids boyfriends/girlfriends. As long as you two are seeing each other and respect each other they will soon enough see this and may be more willing to accept him as time goes by. But like a lot of relationships it may end and so then a new saga in your life will begin. Good luck and trust your instincts.
2006-11-25 09:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might sit down with them and ask them specifically why they do not like him.
You, on the other hand, can tell them all the qualities about him that you do like.
I don't know how old you are, but if they allow you to go out with him, you must be at an age where you can date.
And if you are, let your parents know that you are your own person and have to take responsibility for the decisions you make, good or bad. It's not up to them anymore.
How can they expect you to grow as a person in your own right, if they won't let you make your own mistakes and learn from them.
I'm not saying liking this guy is a mistake ... far from it.
I'm saying you need to impress on your parents the importance of making you own decisions and standing on your own two feet!
2006-11-25 09:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by GRNeyzNYC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First what is the issue? Do you want your family to change? Don't you think that they will continue to be polite to your BF? IS the issue that you think your family is trying to control you? Do you do the same thing to other people?
It is hard to like someone for real right away, and if they do like him and you end up getting a new BF in 6 months what is the point? Do you think you can settle for letting your family be themselves, and wait until you get married and see if they will like your husband or not, and if there is a real problem?
Seems like you just need to let things take their course and wait until there is a real problem before you try to solve something that is not ultimately that important right now.
2006-11-25 09:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by themountainviewguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how old you are and how independent from your parent you are. Meaning you can always cut the umbilical cord and be independent. However you need to be finantialy secure. So if you are young and not independent pretty much you stuck with what your parent want you to do. Or try to convince them that he really is a good guy.
2006-11-25 09:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by El Luigy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move closer to HIS family. Long distant relationships are the best relationships as far as family goes.
If they want to talk crap about you behind your back, then let them.
Don't let them rule your life, you have a right to be happy, and you deserve a good man.
YOU like your boyfriend, you are the one is going to be with him.
If your family tells you they don't like him, tell them : fine, don't sleep with him then!
2006-11-25 09:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by apple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love your bf jus don't have him involved in any family get together jus keep him far away as possible because they don't like him now they aint going to like him a yr from now.
Any thing concerning him don;t tell your family keep your personal life away from them as possible,,,,,
Try and don't take them on and please let yor bf know that your family don't like him so he will be more understanding of the suitation....
2006-11-25 09:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take your families advice into consideration..
They have only your best interest at heart..
Your families opinion is not the last word..
It is your ultimate decision...
2006-11-25 09:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant ignore it, easier said than done.
Its obviously affecting you, so you DO need to speak to them about it.
Tell them its YOUR choice who you date, and you would appreciate if they keep their comments to themselves. Tell them you find it very rude how they talk about you behind your back, and that if they really loved you, they would respect your desicions in life.
Good luck sweety.
2006-11-25 09:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and figure out why they don't like him. When you can pin-point that, you'll have a better chance of fixing it.
2006-11-25 09:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by skichamonix515 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
without your age its hard to advise you....cuz when youre a minor theyre in control
2006-11-25 09:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋