Why do teenage girls dig older men twice their age group?

Question

I have teenage Daughters and I thought it was kinda cute at first because my Daughter said her friend has a crush on me. now this ( child ) I remind you all ! comes around more even when ( my daughter her friend ) isn't here > I tell her to go home not to be rude but this girl has problems and making sexual remarks that would shock your own ears into believing this couldn't happen, I'm no child molester and told my Daughter to keep her clear away from here, and never invite her back, and I even called the law but this girl was caught last night hidding in my bedroom closet and this was the boiling point of me placing alarms now on all my own bedroom windows. what draws these children to this point to think they can have sex with who ever they want at my age 45 . ?

the parents have been told to keep their daughter away because of this situation and since she's 16 she's at the age of consent, they don't care what happens to her and they don't seem to realy care about her mental problems. My daughter said she was only wanting be friends with her because she has none. I can see why. I'm not married and I'm not looking for a teenage sexual relationship with this girl.. that's way out of the question... Ps We live in a high class House here that once belong to a rock star years ago. and this girl is such a problem about ready to move out and place this house up for sale because of this situation here... Come on people think for me Please !!!!

Answer 1

Some girls have had their innocence taken away from them. Now, I don't necessarily mean they have lost their virginity, but some girls have been abandoned by their fathers and some girls have been molested or even in some cases have watched older sisters or mothers behave in sexually provocative ways.
Having said that, girls who have been molested and have not been to counseling, may try to subconsciously cry out or behave in a sexual way because internally their self value may have been reduced to nothing more that sex object. Girls who are abandoned or not cared for properly by their fathers, generally have a "need" for the father figure, most times this will come out sexually. Not for all but certainly for a great majority. The things is that they are far too young and inexperienced with life and relationships to understand this themselves. I know it sounds a little jaded that a young girl will reach out sexually for a "father" figure...it's more like they will do what it takes to get them the comfort of a man they so long for. Again, most girls are not aware enough to determine this for themselves often until they are grown woman. This is why it is so important for a young daughter to have the sincere, safe and unconditional love of HER father.
In a minority of cases, I would say the promiscuity is a "learned" behavior....some women who are single mothers will jump from man to man. Without even considering the long term effects that this behavior will have on her children....I don't think it is intentional on the mother's behalf, but it certainly will send the wrong message to young children and young teenagers. A young girl might have it burned in her brain that in order to retain a man you must have sexual relationship. And if it doesn't work...off to the next.
In your case, I would definitely talk to this girls parents and let them know that she is no longer welcome at your house because she keeps making sexual and vulgar advances to you and that you are not okay with this coming from a child. Maybe you can find out if you can get a restraining order on this girl...so that if she does not stay away, you can have her arrested!
I wish you luck!!! C.Y.A.!!!!! Cover Your @ss!!!! If this girl is capable enough to hide in your closet after you have told her to back off....she is capable of ANYTHING!!!!

Answer 2

Oh my, it could be so many issues. For one, some girls have absent fathers and crave and need that love and affection that they never received from their fathers....without realizing that is what they are doing...and obviously in the wrong way. Some girls are more mature than boys their own age, although, by the sounds of this one, as far as hiding and such, it doesn't seem to be the case with her. Some girls seek older men out because they want to gain sexual experience and be taught. Some have been molested in the past and from what other people would consider normal, which would be to be shy and akward towards sex if molested, actually get a reverse attitude towards sex and allow and put theirselves out their to be abused over and over, for whatever reasons. Some teenage girls think that their friends will see them as superior and cool if they are capable of being with an older man...girls do nothing but compare with each other and bragging rights come in. She could be in a bad situation at home and is seeking an older man to pursue thinking that is her way out of the house...there could be so many factors behind it. The most important thing is that you realize it is inappropriate and you have not taken her up on her advances. Besides it being socially wrong, and maybe legally depending on how old she is, this could cause so much conflict and uneasiness between your daughter and you if you were to allow her to act on her advances. My question for your question is this, if your daughter is aware that her friend is pursuing you and she sees how much conflict it has caused and has seen how out of hand it has gotten, why is she still involved in a friendship with her after she knows this girl has caused so much drama for you? Is this the kind of girl you want befriending your daughter and possibly influencing her down the road? Kudos for you for not acting upon it and refusing her but please talk to your daughter about possibly dissolving her friendship with this girl due to the trouble she has caused you and the possible trouble she may cause your daughter later on. Also, are the parents of the girl aware of this going on? Maybe you should approach them as well and ask them just what is going on with her or in their home for her behavior to be so outrageous. It's tough raising teenagers...I know. Best of luck to you!

Answer 3

This is so obvious...older men have had the years of experience, and so will not disappoint when grasped in physical intimacy...he can also teach the young girl a thing or two about positions....but as long as he is not too old, and seems to be a pervert then there shouldn't be too much of a problem....i must admit my partner is a little older, and boy do i learn from him....so dating someone older has it's benefits...of course.

Answer 4

You need to get a restraininjg order. As a teenager I know that once a girl is hooked she is hooked. It sounds drastic but next time she comes around call the police and file stalking charges. She isn't going to let up by you gently trying to tell her off. You have to be really firm about it. I don't know why she would like a guy twice her age though.....yuck.

Answer 5

well girls tend to find guys in there age group very childish and immature, so they try to gravitate to older men, who not only knows what to do , but who can make them feel good sexually and emotionally. If this girl is under 18 years then it can most likely be that she wants love and she wants to feel importan and younger guys dont really get that kind of understaning for they have little or no experience when it comes on to female emotions.
here is a thought, if she do comes back sit with her and talk with her to find out why she finds you to be attractive, ask her what she expects of you, ask her why not any one else. Then explain to her first telling her that she is a very nice person who deserves to be happy but it just will not work out between both of you. Encourage her to get out and meet other guys, tell her that they can be older just not as old as you. what ever you do try not to insult her in any way. Ask your daughter to help her find some one. If this dosent work you can always tell me and ill make other suggestions. When talking to her be sturdy and kind and what ever you do dont touch her, if she crys give her something to wipe her eyes and pat her on the back.

Answer 6

I would say that she has problems...but clearly you know that by now. She is either having father issues or she is attracted to older men because she is insecure thinks that you can somehow give her whatever she wants and can provide for her. Have you spoken to her parents? When I was a teen I used to have silly crushes on older men but understood the rights and wrongs. Hope things get better for you.

Answer 7

Thing is, many men would take advantage of having sex with a young girl. Reading your question, seems you're not one of those men. Good! Stay away from that scene, guaranted trouble. Just don't allow her in the house. Good luck.

Answer 8

This child has mental issues obviously. You best tread very carefully in this situation. I would advise you NEVER allow her to be near you without credible witnesses. Nothing else you can do. I cannot imagine how one would approach her parent/parents regarding her behavior.

Answer 9

Some of them is jus look for attention and they figure that the only way to get and keep a male attention is through sex....

Answer 10

Curiousity maybe sir, since they still don't have much experience they look for someone who could teach that feeling to them, it's just that maybe you're unlucky to be the one her eyes caught.