my husband always takes up for his family please help?

Question

i wrote last week about the problem with my husbands family blowing his surprise 50th birthdat party i had for him. if any of you remember. his mother called asked how the party was he told her just fine alot of people at our house everyone had a great time. i was so upset,instead of telling her the truth about how his family that was in another town called and blew the surprise that i worked so hard on for 5 weeks. he did call her back and tell her that his brother 2 sister called and blew the surprise for him and also told his mon that i think they did it on purpose. im so upset in his action i just dont know what to do i have had it about up to here. i think he should have told his mother that i have work my butt off spent alot of money for this party and the people out of town called and blew the surprise please help

Answer 1

I believe you are justified in wanting your husband to aknowledge the time and effort you put into the surprise and to show his appreciation he has for your time out that you took for him and to show you that he hasn't taken you for ganted, that he should have spoken up , and still should politely speak up, without causing a family brawl by discussing with her that it was really unfair of them to go ahead and discuss the surprise with him in advance, because the whole idea was to surprise him. Once someone knows about it, it kind of takes away the whole enjoyment you have of seeing the look on his face...it took away the entire goal you had worked so hard for. He should definitely gently speak to all involved about it, if anything, the ones who blew the surprise should at least, if they have any regards for your feelings and any conscious in what they did, apologize to you. You deserve that much from them and you deserve for your husband to at least speak to them about this matter. Let us know how things turn out.

Answer 2

Lippy,
Been there done that. Inlaws basically are a pain in the butt. When you get married most people don't think about the inlaws that will come with the marriage. They are a real stumbling block at times and hopefully they will get better, but don't count on it. You may have to start talking a little more to your husband and tell him how you feel. Hopefully he will come around, after all he is one of them too.
TDCWH

Answer 3

in accordance with marriage counselor my spouse's sister is comparable brainwashed my spouse on many diff. matters. my spouse would not comprehend do you have young ones....??? if so think of a hundred circumstances beforehand divorcee. in any different case talk on your husband and if he refuses then would think of approximately marrying some individual who would be honest, common and common, they aer call administration freak, dominant and desires to break human beings's existence....

Answer 4

say ok guys let me have a rest now