why do married men cheat?

Question

Let me just tell you that i am not judging all married men, i am talking about my husband in particular! we had great se.x and everything was happy, but than he cheated on me and had se.x with a stripper! he told me he still loves me, and is sorry he wouldn't do it again, brought me flowers, candy, took me on a date! but now I want a divorce, sure i still love him, i just found that same stripper's phone number in his cell phone~
so my question is why do SOME married men cheat, when we were having perfectly good se.x, still loved each other, he tells me everyday, so why do married men cheat? you can also email me an answer at [e-mail]

Answer 1

cause of our society, they are victims of beautiful girls

:> peace
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Answer 2

just to tutor how stat may be deceptive, think there are 5 men, A, B, C, D, and E. all of them get married. B, C, D, and E stay common and married. guy A gets married 4 situations and is divorced 4 situations. 2 situations for determining to purchase caught cheating. the only spouse on no account knew he became into cheating. This state of affairs might fulfill your stats, different than the final line. There are 8 marriages with 4 divorces. of course, each and every of the cheating and divorces come from one guy.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that happened to you. Somewhere in his past as a child he was wounded very badly. He was left with an itch that can't be scratched. It may not have all that much to do with you. He'd probably cheat on Cleopatra. Probably he was made to feel that love was conditional or some such thing.
My question for you (in return for my answer) is, what does it matter? The fact is he did that, lied to you and was carrying on his life and that's unacceptable to you. Here's the thing. Some guys can be helped so that they won't do that again some won't make the effort. If you choose, you can see if he wants to get into counseling or therapy, get to the root and fix it. It takes a good deal of work and effort. You have options and I'd recommend a group for newly single folks.

Answer 4

Married men cheat for several reasons. You may believe that the relationship was great but that's in your eyes. Despite the great sex, there was something about the relationship that bothered your husband. He may very well have enjoyed the sex and had fun with you but apparently something, to him, was missing from the marriage and he felt the need to fulfill that elsewhere. I don't believe him when he says that he loves you. When you love and respect someone, you don't cheat. No matter how much he tries to convince you that he does care, if he cared so much, he wouldn't feel the need to pick up this stripper from wherever, have sex with her, and then keep her number in his cell.
He doesn't care, you deserve better!

Answer 5

Some men just have an addiction to sex and if you cannot keep up they will find it elsewhere. Others are just pigs/players and the rest well they think the whole danger threat of being caught is a turn-on. All these types of men should not even consider marriage until they grow up because they are just going to keep hurting the people they get together with because they can't stop there cheating ways.

Answer 6

i am a woman but this is my take on the issue.. i feel like people men and women both cheat because something is missing either in the marriage or within themselves. such as they feel unattractive so when someone flirts with them if feels good or there spouse isnt paying any attention to them and they just need that feeling of being touched and wanted again. maybe there spouse doesnt listen when they talk and the other person does... marriage is very hard work and its not all about sex and cheating isnt always about sex either it is something missing somewhere. if things were great and ok then no one would cheat... just my opinion.

Answer 7

I have a similar question posted, I too was cheated on by my husband, with my (now ex-Bf) bestfriend. they used to have phone sex, and eventually it lead up to the real event, worst thing I was 6 months preganat with our 2-nd child! and aftyer he came home from that night he acted normal,a dn cuddled up next to me and everything. I am feeling bitter one year later, and just want to move on with my marraige with him. I am a christian woman and belive that marraige is a commitment to take seriously, so I am not considering divorse, but I dont know how to effectivly move forward either. By the way it's not just married men, its also married woman. I answered a question a few hours ago to a man who was married for 13 years, with 2 kids, and out of no where his wife met some guy on the interenet and left him!

Answer 8

Well dear let me tell you from experience. I also have a cheating husband, we are separated. I asked God why couldn't I find someone that wouldn't cheat on me. God let me know it is not sex that keeps a marriage together neither can sex be the foundation of the marriage as mine was and that is why my marriage was a downfall. It was based on good sex and not true love. True love last but God let me know "You must first love me and get a relationship with me then I will give you what you need." Sin is the reason why men cheat they do not love God they love doing wrong living for the devil and not God. God requires a marriage to be free from adultery but if people are not saved from their sins they cannot fulfill that. We must love God we must be saved to live according to his principles. Salvation is the answer to everything. Your husband needs true bible salvation and yes you may need it too. I know how you feel on the divorce issue, I also want one; when you lose that trust the marriage is over. And believe me he does not love you if he cheats. He loves himself and he cares about pleasing himself. We cannot love anyone and treat them right if we do not truly love God, because God is love. I was saved from my sins in 2001. I have never been so happy in all my life. I've been separated for almost 2 years now but God has helped me to love him so much that I have no other worries. I have so much peace living a sin free life. He requires us to live without sin. That is this whole world's problem. If we don't truly get saved, truly love God, truly live for God we will not be happy period not just in relationships but in life itself. God bless you and remember God loves you when no-one else does.

Answer 9

People that are happy within their marriage do not cheat on their spouse.Something was wrong within your marriage prior to him going out ,cheating with the stripper.Whether you want to admit that to yourself or not.I believe that people cheat on their spouse because of the way the other person makes them feel. When they are with them.I am not talking about the bedroom.You can have great sex together .What takes place outside the bedroom?When you are not having sex together

Answer 10

It's the thrill of the hunt and the need for something different. It's like a child that gets a new toy for Christmas. The child may play with the toy for awhile but soon gets tired of it and wants a new toy. Same concept with a marriage or relationship.

Answer 11

So Bored,
Immaturity is usually the reason. It takes a long time for some men to grow up. Men have a tendency to be weak when it comes to temptation of sex. I doubt that he even knows why he's doing it himself. You may be better off finding a more mature man who is willing to abide by the wedding vows that he takes.
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