if hubby cheated on me and left after 24 yrs and then became hurtful in how he spoke of me and assualt my charecter....will he ever pay the price for being as mean and hurtful as he has been.......he cheated with a 21 yr old girl he is 42 and i couldnt handle it and told him he had to leave..........anyway how does that turn me into a bad person and mother all of a sudden.......and if it is indeed his own guilt that makes him say hurtful things .....surely he knows they arent true and that he is only hurting me more....why do that after you have already broken my heart.........does what goes around come around?
2006-11-25 07:59:10 · 14 answers · asked by kelly h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It seems that he's unwilling to accept responsibility for his own actions, so he tries to put the blame on you.
Stop letting him put the blame on you. Just because he calls you to say hurtful things doesn't mean you have to listen. Hang up.
2006-11-25 08:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes darl, what goes around definitely comes around. He will get his comeuppance once he has to face the Almighty God at the Great White Throne Judgement, you probably know of it as Judgement Day. He will be given the chance to repent of what he did to you, and if he doesn't, he will simply cease to exist. But I'm sure he will.
I'm so sorry that you are hurting so bad right now, It does NOT turn you into a bad person or mother at all. He was the one in the wrong, and if he has any conscience at all he should be feeling guilty for hurting you. If he's not then God will punish him. That's simply all there is to it.
I hope I have been of some help to you, love.
2006-11-25 16:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_mum1966 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knows he did you wrong. You are NOT to blame here! 24yrs is a long time and he knows your true charactor, he's just trying to put the guilt over to you to hide his OWN guilt.(for some reason that makes them feel better about what they did). That 21yr old girl will get tired of his old butt and move on. He will realize what he's done. But you will have moved on, made a better life for yourself and have a nice man to keep YOU company. Yes I believe in Karma. Keep your head up, I KNOW you are in pain, but the best thing for you now is to move on. Living well is the best revenge! I PROMISE you that! Now..go enjoy your kids, be the best YOU, you can be.
2006-11-25 16:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by 2Bme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, what goes around comes around for certain! You posted a similar question before and it's true. The midlife crisis sounds like an excuse but it is what he is experiencing. He will continue to say and do hurtful things for now - at the cost of what was once important to him.
2006-11-25 16:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first must stop thinking about how he will get his just due. Let God handle that, not you.
He is speaking to you in a hurtful way, because he knows that is the way to get to you. Vengeful people always do things they KNOW will upset you, because anything else wouldn't bother you. Listen to the words of Mary J. Blige "GOOD WOMAN DOWN". That's what he's trying to do, hold you down by making you think low of yourself. Then listen to the next song "TAKE ME AS I AM". You are a strong woman who held a marriage for 24 years, now he thinks you are going to go crawl and hide your head. NO, tell him this is you now, strong and proud and take me as I am.
You are woman, let me hear you roar.
2006-11-25 17:51:17 · answer #5 · answered by mouse in chicago 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't going to take responsibility for the consequences of his own actions, dear, therefore...he is going to attack you.
When you hear that he has said something disrespectful just say, "Yeah, he says that a lot." or "Yeah, he said he was going to tell people that." and let the subject drop.
People who know you do not need his opinion or input to determine your worth.
Hon, if he rings the phone do not have conversation with him, answer the phone, see it is him and then put it down without hanging it up. he gets to rant and you don't have to hear it.
Let it go.....and, by the way, his goes around already came around, as he is realizing....he lost you.............
2006-11-25 20:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes what goes around does come around ... He's mad at himself so he's taking it out on you .. all you have to do now is sit back and watch him make an fool of himself and laugh cause the joke is on him .. matter of fact he is the joke ... stay strong girlfriend don't let what he says get to you .
2006-11-25 16:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw him, he betrayed you, lose the martyr complex, hire a lawyer, divorce him, take at least half his net worth and move on. Rest assure the 21 year old will be his penance, he will suffer the tortures of the damned trying to satisfy this bimbo.
2006-11-25 16:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your situation. I would get my hair done,by a new bra a sexy dress go out on dates and show him you are a strong,sexy woman, who doesn't need his crap and of course his childish ways dont faze you. He his being an *** because he feels bad and wants to make you feel horrible to feed his ego. Dont let him win this dumb mind game. You have the upper hand you left him. Let him know you got it going on as you would say.
2006-11-25 16:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband did the samething...cheated on me and I caught him...kicked his *** out. Now he tells me I am the worst person in the world, everything is my fault...especially when he fails at doing something, I am a bad parent....know why he does this...because he is jealous that I moved on with me life and I am going somewhere...he is not. He is taking out his fustrations on you to try and shoot you down...dont let him girl...hold ur head up you can do it_
2006-11-25 16:03:31 · answer #10 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋