my parents have been married for 16yrs but not happily ive been telling my mum to get out for years because my dad is violent and unloving but they work together at home and she is too worried because she wouldnt have a job and money problems but my younger sister is as self centred as my dad (they get on very well) and is emotionaly blackmailing my mum to stay with him. what should i do because i dont feel that i should be pressing my mum to walk out but hes is so horrible to me and her and she has already been through two complete nervous break downs due to his behaviour towards her?
2006-11-25 07:52:10 · 6 answers · asked by tanwin13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know its hard for her to go out and start again....see if you can talk her into getting a job...even if she starts with a part-time job. Once she gets a taste of freedom...she might run with it and want to start a new life with you and your sibling leaving him in the dust_
2006-11-25 08:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is another responsible adult you can live with until you are of age that will take you in (this does not have to be a relative) explain your situation to the court and ask if you can be placed with that adult. You should ask to speak to the judge privately with an attorney the court will appoint. If things are this problematic at home and will continue to be even after your parents' divorce perhaps the judge will appoint you a guardian. Good Luck. Just because your parents are getting a divorce you should not have to suffer any more than you already are.
2016-05-23 02:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a law against domestic violence-working together at home and still getting the worst part of the deal is not worth it- if your sister get along so well with your father let her stay with him-you and your mother get out-you and your mother can do great things together-don't wait until you have to bury your mother before you do something to help her-leave the two self centered people to take care of each other-you know that sometimes it is better to leave with nothing-than to go through hell to keep something-is her life worth leaving are staying-she need to make up her mind while she is still alive
2006-11-25 08:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest and keep suggesting that she enter into individual counseling, or maybe the two of you could go together. If she won't listen to you maybe she will listen to a professional. She obviously has self esteem issues and that can be worked out in therapy. It isn't wrong to want you mom to leave your dad under these circumstances. I lived my childhood very similar to what you are going through and I begged my mom to divorce my dad. After 4 years of therapy she finally did.
Good luck to you and pray about this situation.
2006-11-25 07:55:57 · answer #4 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. I think they should split and you should go with your mum and your sister with him. Your mum should take what she's learned through the business and try to run with it or apply her skills to a good job. I'm sorry to hear about your problems at home. Be supportive of your mum.
Rich
2006-11-25 07:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Roll'n Bluntz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just keep it all together
2006-11-25 08:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋