my ex left last year we have a daughter together! he never got in touch 4 5months! he asked to come and see our little and i let him! he came when he felt like it and often didnt turn up he said he wanted to make ago of it with me so i tryed but he was constantly doing his own thing! the in may this year he stopped coming again and wouldnt answer my calls i tryed to get him to come and see our daughter but he wouldnt! then he sent a solicitors letter saying he wanted my out of the house and wanted to see our daughter! my solictor replyed to his saying i had'nt stopped him coming and he can see her but it has to be supervised visits only (cos of things that have happened an he used to be violent towards me) he never replyed and 2 mths later he sent me a text to ask to see r daughter i agreed and again let him come! again he says he wants to work things out with me! but he never turns up on time the other day he was 3 hours late and we have to sit around waiting as if i go out i get
2006-11-25 07:49:05 · 10 answers · asked by lillypops 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
accused of not letting him see her! they has been nights he hasnt turned up when he says he is! bonfire night we sat waiting! another time we was ment to go c the xmas lights turned on again he didnt show! the list goes on! but this week was r daughters b'day he has'nt bought her a card or a present as he says hes no money yet he is constantly out clubbing! he wont help me out with the morgage which is a joint one as he says why should he if he doent live here! i have just had enough now and it gets me down i'm just a door mat for him! but i feel if i say i dont want him coming anymore he will kick us out of our home and cause trouble by taking me to court over our daughter ! i have brought her up on my own i never got any help at all from him! i dont know what to do 4 the best
2006-11-25 07:54:11 · update #1
i'm starting to think it's not in my daughters best intrests to see him after all he has done! she's only three but she picks up on things yet if he takes me to court he will get his own way cos of fathers rights! but this is unfair why should i have to do all the parenting stuff on my own which can be stressfull and tiring (tho i love her to bits) and he gets to have a life and come and go as he pleases?
2006-11-25 08:02:29 · update #2
how can i let him take something so presious to me when he cant be trusted?
2006-11-25 09:09:47 · update #3
Quit letting this jerk around! Get sole custody of your daughter and MOVE AWAY from him! He is just going to confuse your daughter. She doesn't deserve that and neither do you.
2006-11-25 07:52:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lillypops i am so sorry for your problem iam a married man aged46
i don t agree with his conduct he ruins it for genuine guys .He went to a slicito so can you as for the house a judge wont give him the house as the child is only 3 he has to prove source of income which he cant do obviously tha makes it awkward for him so dont just leave to suit him if the house is sold you are entitled to a settlement by law and he knows this from his bar room solicitors dont give up let the law sort him out which it will do in time .Iwish you luck stay in touch if you wish not all men are like him cheers for now best wishes dont hesitate
2006-11-25 08:50:43 · answer #2 · answered by not a mused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get legal advice, seek sole custody of your daughter. He can't force you out of the house with a child that age, but if you should have to move the local council would be obliged to house you because of the child's age.. He's being controling and manipulative and is using your daughter as weapon. If supervised visits have been agreed, ensure they are just that.....supervised. Time you stopped being considerate of his demands/wants and looked after those of yourself and your daughter more.
2006-11-27 05:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me he is trying to control you and wants you to have to wait on him. He also know that you love him still and want thing to work so he use is that to get what he wants from you. I some what know what you're going through I'm trying to divorce my ex husband and he told me I was his and that he was going kill me and other thing but it the same game just different things. You need to do what is the best and the safest thing for you and you child and what it sound like to me is that him being in your home is not safe and if he is playing this game you need to take it to court and they will make it where he has to might you in plays that you feel safe with your child so he can see her . A game like this is something not to play becuase once he feel he losing that when he start hurting. So please get help.
2006-11-25 08:29:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love sucks so much sometimes. Focus on what is best for yourself and for your child. Let him see your daughter as much as he wants... but don't feel like you have to let him work things out with you. Be a strong woman... stand your ground. Whatever your decision is... stand by your principals and don't let him push you around emotionally or physically. Be the woman you want your daughter to grow up to be.... show her what a strong woman is... and don't let her see that it is okay to be treated that way. She is probably young... but you have to start somewhere. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-25 07:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what of waste of space, agree he loves your daughter. but what standards is he setting, i don,t think you should stop him seeing your daughter, but learn to take it or leave it, don.t make it a big deal of it in your do's life, if he shows he shows. but don.t believe anything he says.. get on with your life, meet other people. then one day, he won't matter no more to you,, but don't call him to your daughter. kids live in an ideal world, and want both parents to be , especially daddies, for want of a better word, Heroes
2006-11-25 08:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by valda54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is go through the courts
2006-11-25 08:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by lippy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with u use ur sense what do u mean ur trying to ge him to see her if he dont want to then go about ur business
2006-11-27 07:38:05 · answer #8 · answered by jaydyne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People (I mean soul...) never change........being like that is part of his personality.........
be care full and take care of your little one,'cause people like that can contaminated others around............
2006-11-25 07:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by wood a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By an axe, and make it nice and sharp.
2006-11-25 07:53:31 · answer #10 · answered by Barks-at-Parrots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋