Is it that people who are nice , are they having a low self-esteem or not.
2006-11-25 07:23:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Good question.
There are two kinds of 'nice people'. There are the ones who feel obligated to be nice, and those who choose to be nice. A big difference exists beteween the two categories.
The people who feel obligated to be nice usually struggle with low self-esteem. And I know because I have been that kind of person in the past. I was raised to believe that everyone was better than me and my family, so it was just expected that we had to be super-nice to everyone else. But what a horrible existence!
What I realised as I matured, when I stopped to look at myself honestly, was that I had some really great qualities as a person. I am honest, have integrity, a good sense of humour, am highly literate, I have excellent social skills, and am a hard worker. I have no reason to feel like I am under any obligation to be nice to everyone - especially people who treat me like dirt.
That was when I became a person who 'chooses' to be nice, when I feel it's appropriate and acceptable. I don't have to be nice to everyone, but am never unkind unless it's provoked. I have every right to stand up for myself and be rude back to someone if they are rude to me. My self-esteem is not dictated by other people's opinions of me - I know who I am.
In conclusion, yes people can be 'nice' because they feel like they are unworthy (low self-esteem). Or we can be nice because we have made a conscious decision on the matter. And those two differences are definitely down to where a person's estimation of themself lies.
I think alot about that question. Glad you brought it up!
2006-11-25 07:38:43 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Nice people are generally considerate of others.
I don't think they have a low self esteem at all.
2006-11-25 07:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think self esteem has much to do with whether or not a person is nice. I believe it has to do with a combination of nature and nurture.
2006-11-25 18:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice people want more friends and dont like money more than people and I think they dont have a low self asteam just saying!
2006-11-25 07:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by I love jm 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nice people are nice because they want others to treat them nicely too.
2006-11-25 07:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by lanisoderberg69 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice people not going to bullshit.
2014-08-12 05:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was the way i was raised to be nice not nasty
2006-11-25 07:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋