Women seem to get the brunt of the work on holidays. Whether thanksgiving or christmas - which one is tougher on the woman? I say it is Thanksgiving. The reason is that there is much more focus on the meal. The woman is often judged on her culinary, domestic, and hostess duties on that meal. While I realize Christmas is a tough month, when it comes to the single day, I think Thanksgiving is tougher because of the big meal. Presents on Christmas divert attention from the meal.
2006-11-25 07:16:47 · 14 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
It depends. If the woman has kids, she gets stressed out more by her kids all high on Christmas for almost all of December, so for mothers with little kids, it's Christmas. If their mother is coming for one of the holidays, sometimes they get stressed out about making the perfect meal for their mother. Some people go to others for the holidays. They don't get stressed out about the holidays. It all depends on the circumstance. If she is a woman with no children and staying home for the holidays, then I agree with you and it is Thanksgiving.
2006-11-25 07:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by jsquigs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to please everyone. She doesn't call the shots, if you let her she will. I am not saying be mean, but stand by doing what you want. The holiday IS NOT about HER. It is about ALL family. Your original idea( all go to your house for thanksgiving) GREAT idea. You should of stuck with it. You have the right to see your family too. You could sit down and have a chat with her. It is not between her and your husband...your in this relationship too. Tell her, we will be celebrating X holiday(Christmas,thanksgiving,whatever) at our house, and would enjoy you to join us. If she starts saying No NO NO noo no( I have a family member like this) say, well this is what WE are doing, like I said you are more than welcome to join us. I offered to split the day lat year and obviously it didn't work out. Either way in reality, she wont be happy. At least you two will be, she wants control. Do not let her have it, it will put a strain between you two. If it means no holidays with her, that is what it is. That is HER choice, she is the one being difficult and not compromising.
2016-05-23 01:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christmas, I would say. (And by the way, if you think it's Thanksgiving, why did you waste points on asking the question?) Becasue you have to go shopping for everyone (Even though that's fun!) AND prepare the meal. Both meals are supposed to be big. Then there's decorating and everything else. But I totally disagree with you. I think guys should do some work too!
2006-11-25 07:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What a nice, considerate guy! Come over here, I'll bake something for you.
Although there is more stress on the Thanksgiving meal, don't forget that mountain of Christmas cards that have to be sent to (sometimes hundreds) of people, all with a personal message inside. And, endless shopping, and gift-wrapping. And, there is a lot more decor going on for Christmas.
True, these are not happening on the day, itself, but by then, most of us are staggering around in a sleep-deprived stupor, and anything more than Beef-a-Roni for Christmas Dinner is daunting. So, they are equally trying, in my opinion.
The big question is, how come the guys are so little help? Not you, though; I'll bet you actually pitch in!
I say you deserve cupcakes with sprinkles on top for even thinking of us!
2006-11-25 07:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes...they are both very hard on me.....We go to the in-laws and I bring a dish, we go to my side and I bring a dish, then my husband insist we have one with just the kids and us. And I don't like that because we already have two big meals, why cook one for home....unless it is my turn for my side at my house. But I can't figure which one would be worse...christmas or thanksgiving....????? Chirstmas works about the same as Thanksgiving for me.
2006-11-25 07:22:43 · answer #5 · answered by Shari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither holiday, that's if you are a real woman. Maybe that sound, kind of judgmental. I don't see any holiday difficult. I Love to prepare great surprising meals for myself as well as others. And holiday decor is my thing. I'm use to staying up, and getting everything started. The smell of roasted meats, cakes and pies. It's all considered, a Blessing to do so. Not just holidays any day, to share your atmosphere with others.
2006-11-25 07:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by jrneytime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Christmas all the way because we have too buy presants, decorate the house, watch kids, go too pagents, take everyone too church, get the family together, make a huge christmas eve meal, and a huge christmas dinner, buy a christmas tree, decorate the tree, buy christmas videos, and so much more I can't even list it all. for thanksgiving all i have too do is cook all day.
2006-11-25 07:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thanksgiving involves more intensive cooking, but the stress of Christmas shopping and decorating is more spread out.
2006-11-25 07:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thanksgiving because the woman have to cook all the food
2006-11-25 07:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by sammy740bmw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Christmas for sure! Not only is there food and relatives...but gifts, the Christmas tree, decorations, drunk people, parties.....ahhh! lol! Oh ya, and children's plays..usually bad ones. ha ha!
2006-11-25 07:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by javaluv2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋