Trying to make your husband understand my nerves?

Question

Can someone help me in trying to make my husband understand at least slightly that it is difficult to be pregnant, I am bound to get moody. I am a smoker and quit smoking obviously when I found out I was pregnant. So I am 5 weeks now, hormones doubling daily, no caffeine and no nicotine obviously having some stress issues and getting upset at small things etc. He just donsn't seem to at least understand that it is okay for me to be like this. Any advice?

Answer 1

I did the same. Quit tobacco & caffeine. At least the caffeine for a while. (baby's fine) The moment you realize it's not ok to be like that, the better off your relationship is going to be.

Who's in charge? Nicotine? Caffeine? Preg. hormones?

Once you put yourself in charge of your actions, and you'll feel much better about yourself. And your relationship with your husband will improve.

However, this does not give your husband free reign to push your buttons. You have a lot going on and he should be helpful, not a hindarence.

Answer 2

You have done a wonderful thing for your baby by quitting. You should be congratulated.

Are you irritable with your husband? Maybe he takes it personally. Remind him that you care for him, ask him to forgive and forget if you are grumpy with him, so he's not busy with his own hurt feelings. Is there anything you would like him ot do to help you with your anxiety or the feelings you have? Can he take a walk with you ? Try to think of ways he can be involved by helping you. You should get some exercise. It helps to break down the excess hormones and keep you in shape. It also is calming. Keeping your self fit will be valuable as the time goes by.

Are you taking the vitamins? That may help a little. Good luck and again, you did a wonderful thing by quitting.

Answer 3

lol that is a funny one. No husband ever understands the ups and downs of pregnancy. The best advice is to take him to your doctors appt and let him hear it from the doctor himself. Or let him read the answers on here. Especially since you quit smoking... then I know for a fact you are going to be 10 times worse then any other pregnant women. He needs to understand your hormones are going through a loop now and you are just sitting along for the ride. Plus their are articles you can show him and websites that will talk about the hormones and mood swings you are going to be going through. Hope that helps... goodluck

Answer 4

No man will ever understand women's hormones during preganancy. I went through the same thing with cigarettes when I was pregnant and although I didn't drink coffee, I gave into the odd frappacino. My moods were so eratic I would have wanted to kill me. I suggest for you to try Yoga or go for long walks - that helps clear your mind and refresh your mood.
As for your husband, he should read up on this so try and understand what a woman goes through. The girlfriends guide to pregnancy will make good reading for him!

Answer 5

My hubby had trouble dealing with hormones and mood changes and stuff too. We wound up going to the book store and getting him a book (Idiots Guide to Becoming a Father?). It was aimed at new dads and explains things like hormones and changing diapers.

Answer 6

Wow, that's a toughie. Maybe you could point out times that he was moody and not "himself"? Like when he has a hangover or is realyl tired or stressed. And tell him the hormones do that to you.

Answer 7

you just need to explain to him that yoiur gunna get moody and if he didnt want it to happen then he shouldnt have jumped on top when you both agreed to have sex, that hes gotta take responsiblity with the fun=] good luck.