Around this time last year, I found out my husband had sex with my best friend. And lately I have been giving him loads of attitude because of it. We over came this, and there have been many positive changes in our marrige, but lately I feel like it's still not enough. I already forgave and I am a christian woman, why is the bitterness corrupting my atitude?
2006-11-25 06:40:37 · 17 answers · asked by AntzaGurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because you were betrayed, and even though it's been a year it's still going to bother at certain times. epsecially since you said it was around this time last year you found out about the affair. it's normal, just don't let it ruin what it is that you's have rebuilt since then.
good luck!!
2006-11-25 06:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by jdchick48 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am glad I read this, as this is just about the same thing I wrote myself and I too am a christian.
My husband also cheated on me about almost a year and a half to 2 years ago.
I try so dang hard to forget it! I love my husband, but when I am alone I can't help it and i sit and honestly wonder if I should have stayed?
I often find myself wondering if I am pretty enough for him?
I wonder too, what is it that he truly is attracted to?
I also wonder that although he has apologized, and asked for my forgiveness, I still have a little fear. I wonder if he does actually feel bad for what he did to me and hurting me...But? Does he feel bad for what he actually did? Is it just cause he didn't want me hurt? I mean if I wouldn't have found out, would he have just came out and told me?
You sound like me and i get frustrated with others views on life these days.
As to me, Marriage Vowel's are Number One in my life to fallow by. I mean if I am gonna get married, I actually promise to fallow and go by all the vowel's.
When our other partners ends up breaking the biggest vowel, can I trust him?
I know what you mean, keep GOD in your life and try, but feel no shame or guilt if you decide it pest to break apart.
2006-11-25 06:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Tazz 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, what are his medical issues? It feels like it particularly is the priority. besides, its no longer common to think of a guy who isn't involved in intercourse. perchance something else has occurred on your courting it particularly is grew to become him off to you. i certainly have not experienced this problem, yet an acquaintance has. Her husband is so busy and she or he has to usually insist on intercourse. although, i've got observed she has some character themes which will certainly turn me off in the direction of her if she have been my spouse. she would be very demanding, pouty and vindictive. She's additionally suggested that she's even punched him in the gut whilst she's been mad at him. So, how do you think of that makes him experience? waiting for loving? I doubt it. i'm no longer accusing you of those issues, even though it particularly is recommended to evaluate the way you're treating him exterior the mattress room. which would be contributing to how he's responding to you. the two that or he's a closet gay. ;)
2016-10-04 08:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gone through a similar situation with my wife, and let me tell you there have been several times over the last several years I thought we were past it, but there is a big difference between frogive and forget. So, my anger over the betrayal of trust she inflicted on me still rears its ugly little head from time to time. I know it's negative energy, but I can't help myself. Good luck
2006-11-25 08:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by hdb107 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all you can forgive but you don't have to forget- she was not your best friend begin with,because if she was she would not have slept with your husband-you said that you are a christian woman, so why the attitude? what you are looking for is revenge and being a Christan woman you should know that the Lord said that revenge is his and not yours
2006-11-25 07:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are only human. You were betrayed by two people that you hold dear. You have a right to be upset.
Forgiving is easy. Forgetting is another story. You stated that your marriage overcame this infidelity, but I think that it is not over yet. You and your husband have a lot of prayer and discussion ahead of you, and counseling may not be a bad idea either.
2006-11-25 06:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by tbonz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go out and get you a shot of strange so that will make you even sounds like you haven't forgiven him if you are giving him grief over it if here is some thing for you to think about if the dog ain't feed he'll find food some where Else take care of the dog and he will stay home
2006-11-25 06:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by hill bill y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you either feel like he is doing something again or you truly have not totally forgave him maybe seek some counseling for yourself it truly can help been there sometimes we really need to look at ourselves and i never understood how counseling could help but it does and it's not the same as a friend the co i work for has EPA its a counseling thing that's free to employees you get like 3-5 sessions for free
2006-11-25 06:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
coz u trusted him and u married him but he cheated on u what r u supposed to do with Ur feelings and Ur hurt and pain ? when the one u trusted hurt u and let u down ? but to answer ur Q " time will heal all ur wounds " try not to live in the past , think of the good his showing u and it will be easier ! his trying to move past this let him for both of ur sake !
2006-11-25 06:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by amal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have went as far as to forgive him , you need to loose the attitude! or he will find comfort again in some other woman! let go of it as you have promised to do. you can't change the past or make it go away. you move on from it and let it go....
2006-11-25 06:49:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋