My husband and I live a domestic discipline lifestyle. How many of you agree with this?

Question

I was interested as to how many married couples live this way, and would like to share on this subject.

Answer 1

I do agree with you

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Answer 2

The domestic discipline movement that encourages wife spanking is condoned and supported by some religions.
However, giving husbands this type of authority in a marriage can lead to spousal abuse and can destroy the self esteem of the person being spanked.


What is Domestic Discipline?
Domestic discipline is a submissive marriage lifestyle that encourages husbands to spank their wives for mistakes or misbehavior.

"not interested"

Answer 3

Yeah what is a domestic discipline lifestyle. I don't what it is but it sounds like it would be real boring, whatever it is I don't want none of it.

Answer 4

If you can tolerate it then I guess it's okay. Personally, I feel you are already grown and you have been raised to adulthood and no one should have any authority to "punish" you.

But if it works for you (and you enjoy it)--- go for it. Just don't allow yourself to be forced into something that you are uncomfortable with. The fact that you're asking complete strangers about it makes me question your comfort level where this is concerned.

And it makes me wonder: Who gets to discipline him when HE steps out of line?

Answer 5

Do you mean that you have both agreed to traditional roles of men and women in a marriage? If so and you are happy with it, then more power to you. Unfortunately, that doesn't always work these days. Women have to work and raise children and take care of household duties. I have often wished that I lived in older days when the lines were clear. Why? Because it would nice to have just one job.

Answer 6

If you are enjoying this then keep it up==maybe you are a sadistic person and goes for bondage ant that stuff==i myelf cant understand how you can possibly like it==but who am I to say--there are lots of things going on in the world that we dont understand==on th eother hand--if you are not enjoying this then by allmeans stop it right away ==and if he insists on it then get rid of him

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Answer 7

We choose not to live this way, but from the sound of it, it's a spin-off of the BDSM lifestyle. I think that it definitely has the potential to degrade to abuse of power if it is practiced by those who don't fully understand the concept.

Contrary to common belief, lifestyles that involve an exchange of power such as the one you're describing are in fact very respectful. We choose not to live in an non-neutral-power relationship because we understand that with great power comes great responsibility. Each person is responsible for him or herself ultimately, and that being the case, we have a responsibility to ourselves to not give up our "obedience" to anyone without due consideration of their fitness to govern us. If we feel that a person cannot be trusted with that much power, it is not only our right but our responsibility to not give it to them. It is NOT something that is okay to take from someone. NO one has the right to assert ownership over another human being, male or female. That is something that can only be given as a gift; otherwise it loses it's meaning, and the person who "owns" the other is nothing more than an opportunistic bully, not a person with real power. I would consider a person "powerful" who is able to inspire the trust of others to such a degree that they willingly give him or her the right to make decisions for them. And to add to that, this person is all the more powerful when he or she makes wise and kind decisions that put his/her slave/servant/pet/submissive's interests ahead of his/her own.

It's not about weakness or stupidity. It's not about being abused. It's about trust and love. Sounds weird, I know. But look at it this way: the "spanker" does not take for granted his power. The "spankee" allows the spanker to discipline him/her, and the spanker is (or should be) humbled by this display of trust. This should inspire him or her to feel the weight of that responsibility.

Many religions do promote this kind of relationship, but if it is practiced merely because it is promoted by religious leaders without fully assimilating the full meaning of it, it quickly loses its meaning and turns sour. This ends with abused souls and heavy hearts.

Answer 8

I don't need to be spanked for my 'mistakes' because I am not a child. If you are acting the role of a child in your marriage, and being 'spanked for mistakes' sounds like you are, then remember that one day children grow up and leave home. Unless they are mentally retarded, anyway.

ADDITION:
What's going to happen when he gets to be about sixty-five, and is losing teeth and strength and virility, and you're younger and you've still got all your marbles and vitality and teeth? Is he still going to be 'spanking you for your mistakes' by then, or do you think you will have grown out of this phase before that? Can you really see yourself getting spanked when you're fifty?

When are you going to face up to your own power as a woman and an adult?

And what 'mistakes' does an adult woman make, that her partner gets to spank her for? Like, not doing all the handwashing before five pm, or accidentally undercooking the peas? Really!

Answer 9

Hon, no one in the states lives like that. Here it is called domestic violence. We do not marry to have a man lord over us. We marry to have a life partner. I don't hit him, he dare never hit me.

Answer 10

Why would you agree to that? I don't understand. Do you think that men are better than women? I respect your right to do whatever you want, but my opinion is that you must be out of your mind.

Answer 11

We live a DD life too

http://domesticdisciplineuk.ning.com/