Feeling like I want revenge?
I found out that my sister in law has not only befriended my husband's mistress (now girlfriend/baby momma) but also cosigned my husbands affairs by validating lies, my husband has told to the other woman. I blame my husband (soon to be ex) for his infidelity and I have dealt with him my own way. But for my sister in law to have discredited me and tells lies about me and has even talked about my kids (her niece and nephew) with this other woman outrages me. She has been playing both sides of the fence and has acted like she was my friend for years (borrowing my car, sharing intimate details about her past lovers comparing them to her husband, borrowing ends which was never paid back and etc) I am not saying that I'm squeaky clean either. I have one piece of information that would devastate her but revealing such information would hurt someone that I truly love in the process. But I can't stop feeling the want to see egg on her face.
2006-11-25 06:33:47 · 10 answers · asked by juicydiva21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forgive and forget. Move on, karma or God, whatever you choose to believe in, for me its God, and it will definitely get her back.
2006-11-25 06:36:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge is risky business. If this is what you truly want then good luck, but remember that the harm you bring upon others is usually the destruction you bring on yourself. You seem like a good person, so be the bigger person than the idiots around you and simply get on with your life without them. I don't believe you want anymore drama in your life, so don't create any. I know it is hard because your head says to get even and you will feel better, but the truth is you will feel better simply by getting on with your life and surounding yourself with good trustworthy, prosperous people. And old saying " If you sleep with dogs you will get fleas. Dust yourself off from the fleas and let the dogs infect each other. Also, the devastating information you have on your sister-in-law will come back to bite her without your help. And what I mean by you being the bigger person is that you should not wish anything bad on anyone. I believe you feel the same way. Smile at ya!!!!
2006-11-25 06:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by MeToo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regarding confidential matters, they're confidential and should stay that way. Don't lower yourself to the lesser person's level.
It seems natural for the husbands sister to side with him. You've gotten the dirty end of the deal in this marriage and the relationship with the soon-to-be ex's sister. Dump the both of them.
If children are involved that is a matter to be settled by law.
2006-11-25 06:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by CJohn317 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone has to set an example for the children, yours and hers, let it be you. I am not saying lye down and be victim but show yourself and the children that you will not lower yourself to their (ex hubby and sister in law) level. Kill her with kindness. That hurts like a big dawg. Make sure you keep your conversation short and concise. Don't go on about this with anyone. Set an example.
2006-11-25 06:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it, the only true way I've seen people change their ways (for better/worse) was through something that pained them. If this will affect someone else...it makes me think that his/her involvement wasn't exactly honest either. Basically, although the degree of guilt in this matter is less for the person you truly love, he/she is probably still guilty
2006-11-25 06:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by PinoyC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have answered this question. everything goes full circle an she will get her just reward in the end. don't bring yourself down anymore on all this. it won't change things , such as your hubby being a cheat. blame him for cheating an tearing up the relationship. she did you wrong but it will come home to her.
2006-11-25 06:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to hurt good people--by you getting revenge you are going ot hurt people that have nothing to do with this ===leave well enough alone and get on with your life===just put these people out of your life and forget them---i know hard to do--but thats the best way
good luck
2006-11-25 06:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by willtdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just cut yourself off from that family, don't deny your kids from seeing them. If you play that trump card you are going to lose your loved one and just ask yourself is it worth it ? Just to get back at your sister in law, she is garbage, don't entertain her by bringing yourself on her level.
2006-11-25 07:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just divorce her too. You don't need any of them in that family.
Or you could sleep with her man.
2006-11-25 06:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by tbonz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with it
2006-11-25 06:35:41 · answer #10 · answered by suri c 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋