I met a guy and i really like him. He seemed oldfashioned at first (his apperance) but when we start to talk, then he seemed very nice and understanding guy. We have the same profession.He have a wonderful career.
The problem is that he comes for a very conservative family ( eventhough he tries to convince me that they are liberal and understanding). My family is very opend minded and liberal. So I doubt that we will have sucsess. But when I look into his eyes there is something about it. He is so calm and gives me security that I need. He says that he accepts critics, that he is transparent and he can change. But can he change his way of living and those traditions that he used to grow up?
2006-11-25 06:27:25 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't think that is an question that anyone can answer but him.
2006-11-25 06:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by tomarescobar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, do the guy a favor and stop seeing him. You're already talking about changing him. If that's your attitude now, YOU are the one that needs to change, at least the part about expecting HIM to change.
Look, in my experience, all divorces happen for one of two reasons: Either someone expects someone else to change, or someone expects someone else NOT to change. The fact is people DO change, but not in a way YOU get to control or even predict.
I'm sorry, it sounds harsh, but if you expect anyone to change to suit you, any marriage you get into is destined for trouble. If you really like the guy, don't even think about doing that to him.
2006-11-25 14:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really cares about u then he will change, and if your not sure look into his eyes. They say that a persons eyes are the windows to ones soul.
2006-11-25 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by livinginmyheartsshadow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋