i have a friend she luvs black her parents are divorced her boyfriend broke up with her about 2 1/2 mounths ago and she still likes him and misses him dearly and stuff and she like the dark ALOT and feels like nobody cares about her and that peopel just want her to die---What should i do?
2006-11-25 06:20:04 · 9 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
but at skool she acts like everything is perfect except for the boyfirend thing...but she started acting like this after her boyfriend broke up with her and she even started parting her hair diffrant and it's been parted that way sence and all she ever dose is talk about her ex boyfriend? and shes always saying y can't i like anyone else like i do him???i really don't no what to do?
2006-11-25 06:42:57 · update #1
something
2006-11-25 06:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set her up, And I mean this in a good way, you know what she likes and what she dose not like in a man or in life in general. So find a man that fits the bill have him and a friend go to a club or a bowling Alli it dose not matter some where public, This will create the illusion that they are meeting by chance and that she is not being set up. The reason for this is that her self esteem is way down and if she thinks she being set up well then she will feel its do to some one feeling sorry for her, but on the other hand if she dose not know that she is being set up and a guy approaches her this will create a almost immediate positive reaction, you as her friend have to egg this on you know like he's cut, and I think he really likes you or he has a nice butt....... things like this will again create the effect we are shooting for here to raise her self esteem the objective is to make her feel like she dose matter and that people do care and that she is still attractive you as a woman should already know this. So try this It can't hurt, good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-25 06:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by matt v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing for you is that you have support at this time. While you love and care for your friend, you cannot fix her life. You can be there for her and tell her how much you care and how much you love her, but if she is hell bent on perceiving life as damned, dark and not worth living, for her it will be that way.
It sounds like she doesn't care for herself and has a lot of self loathing. She is drowning in self-pity and self-victimization. I know, I recognize it because I have been there. You cannot fix her, doctors cannot fix her. She has to want to recover her precious self and choose to be happpy and whole. It takes a lot of work, but so does hating yourself, she's just good at it and has a lot of experience doing it so it feels easier to be hopeless.
Taking care of yourself means that you understand that you cannot make her happy or sad. You are not responsible for her feelings. She may think that you and everyone else is, but this isn't so. She is responsible for how she feels and how she perceives the world. You can love her right where she's at without acting codependent. A suggestion is that you look up "codependence" or "codependency" or "codependent" & "recovery" online. You can find help for yourself and that will greatly help your friend.
Kindest regards.
2006-11-25 06:39:06 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i would do if i were you it sound like she is very depress and she is seeking attention and really need it so why dont you take her out and get her a complete make over hair ,nail,make up
then take her out to lunch and have her put some different clothes
on,and hang out with her for a couple of days sooner or later she well start to feel good about her self again.this is the season of
miracle remember any thing can happen if you truly believe in it.happy holiday.
2006-11-25 06:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend how important that she is in your life. You and I both know that life isn't always the way we had it planned and you should reinforce this with your friend and let her know that sometimes bad things happen to good people also. But that she needs to stay strong and that things in all areas of her life will improve in time. Best of luck, you must be a good friend to want to help her.
2006-11-25 06:25:05 · answer #5 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should sit her down and tell her people do not want her to die and many people love her and don't want her to get hurt and tell her things that make her feel good about herself. Good luck!
2006-11-25 06:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that u care about her and make her feel ok tell she can go on this was just a minor set back
2006-11-25 06:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she just needs a friend there for her. try to cheer her up by making her laugh or something. let her know someone cares
2006-11-25 06:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by your wonderwall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consulting a psychologist is the best way you can help your Friend.
2006-11-25 06:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by <<< sky >>> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋