when you lose someone u loved
2006-11-25 06:15:04 · 18 answers · asked by adi_pit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the person still lives, but doesn't want to live with me anymore
2006-11-25 06:22:51 · update #1
Yes. We all get hurt by people in our lives, and getting hurt that way helps us understand the pain we inflict on others when we hurt them - intentionally or not.
A good cry is a marvelous thing. It helps you heal after you've been hurt. Have yourself a good cry, whether alone or on the shoulder of a friend.
2006-11-25 06:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by Leo F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suffering? No, but I think it's OK to grieve. Do not mistake grieving for suffrage. Grieving for a deceased loved one is totally OK because of course you're going to miss that person. You've spent time together and gone through both good and bad times together, laughed and played, argued, fought and later made up. Now that person is gone and left a hole in you. Grief and deep sadness will overwhelm you at first but that's not suffering.
It's a good thing to mourn the dead but suffering oneself, by adopting destructive behaviors, because they lost a loved one is immoral.
If you've lost a loved one, I want to offer you my condolence. I can relate to how you must be feeling because I too lost a loved one just a month ago - my grandfather. I can assure you one thing....Time heals everything.
2006-11-25 14:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by dajyde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it's not worth it. It is an attachment which leads to suffering. If you love, you must love uncondtionally despite what the other person might do or say. Love is love and it is something to give, not take.
2006-11-25 15:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
other than suffering from a broken heart, there's no need to make yourself suffer over someone who didn't want to be with you. think of it as a blessing in disguise-now you have the opportunity to meet/find the person that really does love and want to be with you. i guess some minor suffering is ok if in the end you find your true love
2006-11-25 14:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
You are a darling young man! I can see in the photo that you are sincere and caring, I hope you get over this. You will suffer for a time. Life goes on. Try to be happy and there will be another love!!!
2006-11-25 14:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i mean u are goingto be sad ok thats normal but damn life goes on move on why be sad and anti social theres plenty of chocolate in the machine so u got a bad try again whos to say the next wont be the perfect match a unless the person u loved died then u should still move on
2006-11-25 14:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by kaschara200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean but answers aren't going to help you...
As far as a Lost Love? That considers if your last love was lost by death?
Or is that over a break-up? The reason I am asking that is, I too have a lost-love, a guy I loved in 1989 and still to this day love him so much I would leave with him if he were to knock on my front door.
I am now Happily Married ( I am 39 / but feel/ look & act like 18 or 19 years of age)...My hubbie just turned 30 last month.
In 1989 my *love* was sent away from FT. Bragg, N.Carolina Army Post to spend WAR time in Saudi-Arabia...I was waiting in Fayettville, N.C for him and during that time I was hospitalized and coma-tose and sent to California to stay in the hospital and be near family. I was there for a year (in the hospital) I too had 2 kids which I had no memory on family, friends, who the heck I was and had to learn to walk again. During all that time, my fieance I loved more than anything came back to N.Carolina excited for our wedding too, yet couldn't find me and had no way to know what happened to me. He figured I found another guy while he was away and went on with life and offered to spend another year over at WAR. Well about a year and a half later, I got my memorie back and couldn't figure out how to locate him. I was more sad than can explain. Later (months later) I dated a guy and got married (explaining to him about the guy I lost)...In 1999 (10 years later) he found me or at least where I lived (Washington State) and went to where he thought I was, when he found out that I was in the hospital once again and had been for months (my spouse told him that he knew I always had thought of him and missed him) although he didn't want to tell him how to find me. Well after out of the hospital my husband filed for a divorce as he fell in love with someone while I was in the hospital and so when I came back he told me about how he came to our house to find me. Thought posssibly I should try'n hook up with him. I tried but had no luck locating him. I got married in 2002 to another guy as i know the man I love wiht all my heart is in Iraq...Trust me I know your feelings, I guess I can say to go on ahead and Physically -Move-On! But realisticly if you LOVE this lady as much as I will ALWAYS love my man, it will be with you Till-Death -Do-You-Part (just like marriage)...Please keep the Lord with you to help you make it through your lonely times.
Sincerely,
Michelle
2006-11-25 14:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. I lost 6 years pining away for a girl who left me, got married, had 4 children. I am now older and happy for her. I found my own happiness, and regret the depression and unactive social life I lost during those years.
2006-11-25 14:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Johnboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's perfectly normal to cry over losing someone we love, but not totally suffer bcoz of it.. move on.. a lot of good stuff awaits.. besides, the ones we love that we lose would have wanted us to be happy, with or without them..Ã
2006-11-25 14:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by ♀.angeL^a.♀ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suffering is normal,its onlyhuman,but dont make it a way of life,try to moveon as u will notice soon if the love is truley lost then it is time to move on.
2006-11-25 14:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by VermillionTears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋