My boyfriend (age 23)and I (20) have been living together for about a month now and his parents are totally against it. They refuse to come over to our house for anything, not even dinner. They treat me different now that we live together, and I just don't understand it. They are not religious and can never give us a good reason as to why they don't like it. He's old enough to make his own decisions why do they treat him like a child? What's the big deal about us living together and why do they think its such a sin? Can anyone shed some light on this for me?
2006-11-25 06:01:55 · 9 answers · asked by whitterbug469 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why live together? Do you love the guy, and does he love you? Is this just a temporary thing, until somebody better comes along? Are you guys just horny, but tired of driving home late alone? Exactly WHY do you choose to live together, rather than marry? Isn't the roomie worth marriage? Or is it you that's good enough to sleep with, but not good enough to be a wife? You wonder why they don't like this arrangement. Perhaps they think that IF you two belong together, you should be married.
2006-11-25 06:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
Perhaps I can shed some light. I am sure I could be your mom. I am 54 years old. We are from a different era. Some people my age look at things differently. I did not have children and I think it has kept my opinions differrent. I remember being young..
Parents do not like this because of many things. What will the family think? What will the neighbors say? They may even look at you like a "loose" girl!!! See they dont think if you live in different houses that you are living like a couple. having sex, etc!!!
You cannot live your life for someone else. What if tomorrow the world ends. You have to live the moment!
But, I also have an opinion. Marriage is very sacred and should be honored. If you two break up, sure there is no divorce for the courts, but it is the same aas divorcing when you end with someone you love. If you want to "try" to see how you can get along and "try" to see if it works. That is not good. Life is full of good and bad, happy and sad, Certificate or not!!
Marriage also protects you both. 50-50. now if you split you get nothing. You have to look at it for a moment with "older eyes" I wish you both lots of luck and hope you think this through and things will work out!
2006-11-25 14:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you and him been together? If not long, maybe they think you two are rushing it, or that you are too young to be making such a big commitment. Is he their only son or only child? There can be many reasons, and the only way you will know, is if you and your bf sit down and ask them why they don't agree with it. Good luck! :)
2006-11-25 14:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents would like to see their children married. I think they view living together as a temporary thing.
2006-11-25 14:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be that they think that you are both too young to take on the roles that you have entered into. Maybe they had dreams for their son that, they fear, are unlike to happen. Could be that they fear a child is next...
2006-11-25 14:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that people like your boy friend's parents' were brought up to think differently than younger generations do now. "You can't teach an old dog new tricks."
2006-11-25 14:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they believe that both of you are too young....and living together can cause stress to a relationship...Im sure that the parents just dont want to see their son get hurt.
2006-11-25 14:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by chris f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are just being over protective of their son! and they think you will use him or take everything in the long run. just give it time and they will come around.
2006-11-25 14:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE THEY THiNk iTS WR0NG BECAUSE Y0U GUYS LiVE T0GETHER AND ARENT MARRiED...S0ME PARENTS ARE LikE THA BUT WAT CAN THEY D0..L0VE iS L0VE!..TRY T0 TALk T0 THEM!
2006-11-25 14:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by x6sd1muneca9x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋