When did you decide that divorce was the best option for your situation ?

Question

Wondering when enough is enough and when to let go and give up.

To add to the previous details there are young children involved.....

Answer 1

All situations the answer for when its time to get a divorce.. When you go to work (drama), when you go to school (drama), etc... etc.. When you come home that is supposed to be the one place of peace. occasional fight is gonna happen.. But with all the problems out and about in life.. Why would you walk through the door of your house and hate it more than hearing the alarm for work.. If your relieved to leave the house cuz you don't have to deal with the other.. Its time for a divorce my friend.. Better a kid to grow between both households than live in a war zone.

Answer 2

When do you give up? When you both have done everything you possibly can to save the marriage (for example, individual and joint councelling, possibly with different councellors, and a willingness to repeat the process if it helps for a while and things start to slip); when you know in your heart that there is nothing more that can be done, you feel there is no longer any unfinished emotional business, and you feel you are ready to move on. There are some situations, however, that need more immediate separation, and that is the case of physical and/or mental abuse, or where the spouse is a substance abuser. Do not stay in any situation where you are endangered physically and/or emotionally. If the spouse is unwilling to get intensive individual help, don't feel hesitant about divorce. You personally can do nothing to help such a person.

Answer 3

When you have nothing to say to each other. When you look at each other across the dinner table and have nothing to say and you look away. When the kids (even young ones) ask you why you are not happy. When the kids ask you why you cry all the time. When the kids ask why daddy doesn't go to their school events with their mommy, because their daddy has other important things he has to do. It's time to get a divorce when your husband has so many hobbies, that he doesn't have time for his family. When you have done absolutely everything to make the marriage work and you are both still miserable. When you start finding yourself imagining your life without him. When you know that you can make it on your own and be much happier with life and the children. Knowing your children will be much happier, even with only one parent in the picture most of the time. Knowing that your children will not see you cry all the time, instead seeing a smile on your face! Again, do everything possible to make things work, and if they don't, it's time to get out. You will be happier in the long run. I know I was. What's amazing, is if you think you are hiding your feelings and actions from the kids. They know what's going on - even if they are young! It's time for happiness in your life and in your kid's lives.

Answer 4

I am divorced myself. Depending on why your wondering if divorce is necessary may be a good indication that you already know the answer deep down. I knew it was time for me to get divorced when I thought about how unhappy I was with the person I was with, which i turn I knew the future wouldn't be any better. I don't have children so it wasn't as hard as some situations. But if counseling isn't something to consider it may be time to cut your losses, learn from mistakes, and move on. GOOD LUCK. Its hard, but if its necessary you can do it!

Answer 5

Well, I have never been divorced, but, I have a resonable amount of people around me divorcing every few months. I would have to say that the best time to call it quits would be when you two start to drift apart and don't speak for long periods of time. Try to console him/her about the quiet situation and start talking again if you are drifting apart in that way. If he/she is abusive (verbally or physically) it is time to GET OUT. Follow along those guide lines and you should be fine. If you feel the relationship going stale, end it before it turns rotten.

Answer 6

well every body has different limitation and situation in there life and it depend on how much you can deal with it sound you are at the end of your marriage and ready to give up well you need to do what make you happy in life because you dont want to stay in a marriage if you dont love your husband or if he doesn't love you.because marriage is suppose to be a 2 way street not a one way street.my wife didnt want to be a mother or a wife any more so she just walk out on us.but like i said ever situation is diffent if you are not happy leave him.there is always some one out there that well make you happy.happy holiday

Answer 7

Divorce #
1- he came home from the navy with a "fiance"
2- he hit me and my 2 year old (the 3rd time)
3- he was in love w/ his race car (home for only 12 days/yr)
4- he committed a felony & I found out

How's THAT for enough?

Answer 8

After being thrown out for the 4th time in 9yrs. Each seperation lasted about a year. I hate going through this again. If we would have divorced earlier I would have been over it by now.

Answer 9

Drinking, running around with women, laying out all night are a week end. Telling you don't look as good as you use to, that bathing looks like sh** on you. You look at them and that BAST***
looks like crap,. You know he is seeing other and you really don't give a damn. You know marriage is lifetime commitment. You look at him and this is what I have to look to the rest of my life, especially at the same time your looking in the mirror at one maybe two blacks eyes. You gotta go work next morning and trying to think some big to tale to your friends. That's when you decide ,DIVORCE., DIVORCE, DIVORCE

Answer 10

When I began to feel like his maid more than his wife. When I stopped looking forward to spending time with him. And, when the sound of his breathing annoyed me like nails on a chalk board. There were no kids involved and that made it easier for me to decide.