I'm 23yrs old and I'm 12 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend has decided that his life is changing directions and he's moving to another state. I'm so scared, and all I do is cry all day. He's given me until January to find a new place to live. Has anyone else been in this situation? Where do you find the strength to face the day?
2006-11-25 05:35:12 · 28 answers · asked by tangyterp83 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
girl, i'm in the same exact situation. i'm 19 5 months pregnant, he left me 3 months ago. if someone is going to leave behind such a precious innocent child of his, and his beautiful woman, then he is stupid, and you don't need somebody stupid in your babys life. i agree about the dna testing that i read above.. do that because you deserve that basterds money. you're baby is going to make you so happy. i was depressed about it, but as soon as i felt him move inside of me, i was like "this is real, it's going to be hard raising him, but i'm up for it, he's going to be my little man, and we're going to be a team for life, no matter what happens, i'll have his back, because i love him more than anything already" i'm sorry if this doesnt help- but girl, i want you to realize that you can do this, financially, mentally, and physically... and spiritually if you have a religion will also help you through anything, i think we all know that. there is help for single mothers, dont think of it as "going on public aid" you know? if you need it, you need it... ****- our work taxes are paying for it anyway!!! physically- we'll probably get tired, but i guess let's be happy we're not having twins, huh? lol. it'll be worth it.. that child will be your sunshine and your rainbow, he or she will be your world and you'll be so happy. don't worry about that asshole, he obviously doesn't deserve whats to come, and thats why he's not there. baby girl, he'll get his, you know he will. he'll regret every second once he sees that child. just be strong.. go cry on someones shoulder!!!! you deserve it and talking to your mom or someone that has been in your position will understand and comfort you. you're not alone, just stand strong, even when you're falling, your child loves you, momma!! :)
2006-11-25 06:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will fine the strength. Think of yourself for a change. Your bf is screwed up having a child is such a big thing he is prob very frightened or he is a totall dick head. Your hormones are all over the place so what he has done has mutliplyed your feelings a lot of pregnant women cry even without what you are going through. My ex done that earlier than 12 weeks I got over it , it did however take time and the birth will be more emotional. make sure your family and friends know what you are going through. And most importantly concentrate your energy on you and your baby .
2006-11-25 05:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that ur in this situation. Girl u have to keep ur head up and not let that man see u cry. Think about ur baby because all that stress is so bad. If he wants to leave then let him because in the end he ain't a real man and obviously u are to old to be putting up with little boys. Love urself, live for the baby, because the more u live the more u learn, and the more I'll experience more pain. Baby let me tell u, u can do bad all by urself, u don't need no man helping u out! I pour my heart out to u.
2006-11-25 10:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by songbirdz03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow... that is really hard... I don't knwo what i would do if my husband left me right now (im about 12 weeks too) but one thing i do know is that you have to be okay- not for yourself, but for your baby. It is not going to be easy... but you will be okay. you should see if you can find a friend that needs a roomate- or that can take one even if they don't need one because living alone and pregnant may be really hard. also you might want to start looking into any and all financial aid available for pregnant mothers, theres a lot out there. As for finding the strength you should be able to find it inside of your belly. you should be able to start feeling the baby move here within a few weeks, and that should help keep you going. you can email me if you want someone to talk to. good luck
2006-11-25 05:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by NewMommy!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guy. You don't state how independent you are so I really cannot offer too much advice. Are you financially stable? Can you support yourself? Do you have friends that can help you (give you a place to stay) so you can take some time to find a place that will suit you.
Everything happens for a reason. You may not know what the reason why all this is happening now but you'll figure it out with time. Crying won't solve anything so get strong, take pride and do what you need to do for your baby and yourself to survive and have a happy life.
You can do it!
I'm not a real religious person but people have told me that God only tests the strong and man oh man he has tested me over the years. When I look back at all I have survived through it makes me proud of myself. We all have challenges and sometimes they REALLY suck but we all get through them. It's called life.
Good luck.
2006-11-25 05:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am 20 years old, I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 19 and her father was 25. i met him through some bad circumstances involving drugs. We knew and lived together for only 3 months when I found out I was pregnant. The next day after we found out I went to work and he packed his crap up and moved out. I havent seen her heard from him since. I dont collect child support. I didnt even put his name on the birth certificate. I ended up moving back home with my parents, I have been clean for 2 years. I know our situations arnt exactly the same but you gotta relize there is a baby in your tummy. For that childs sake, move on. If this guy isnt man enough to step up to the plate and take care of his responsibilties, he is not worthy enough to be in your or your childs life. You cant make him. I know... thats sounds horrible but its the truth. Your stregth is now that beautiful child in you, and you want the best for it. Your in my prayers.
2006-11-25 06:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by sunbaby55 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry.
On the other hand, you will look back on this and realize how lucky you are that such a loser of a guy is no longer in your life.
Do you have family or friends that are supportive? Reach out to them. That is the type of support you need....not some irresponsible boy. This gives you the chance to give the baby all the love in the world with more stability. If your boyfriend was around, he would only bring chaos to your baby's life.
Move on, like all strong, responsible women do, and dedicate your life to your new baby. Do everything you can, and the help will appear.
2006-11-25 05:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What I am going to say is honestly from my heart, from the things I've gone through. I am not sure of the other things in your life at this time (not to be mean) but I mean aside of your broken heart you have now. I am meaning for the Baby. I got married at 18, had my 1st baby at 19, had my 2nd baby at 20, and left my husband at FT. Bragg N.Carolina, drove to California to try'n make it on my own. It was hard. I could not be employed and afford Child Care $$$. My girls are now 20 and married in Texas, 19 and on her own in California and I have another girl 15 years old. The girls all bring up left and right about how things should have been done! About if I was smart enough I would have given them up when they were young, or they may not have had it so hard...So on and so on..I mean heck it would have been a lot easier for me too, but I kept them cause of course I loved them, but truthfully I myself don't thik it is wise to have a child until you are already married and married for a while to make sure it is going to be a good thing for each of us, with far less pain in the process. I'm sure you will LOVE your baby, but think of the baby too...I'm not sure of your Family and their support on the baby coming? But if you will be doing this 100% on your own, I am know body but I believe it would have been best for the girls if I would have gave them away. I think that someone wanting to adopt a child with the $$$ involved, shows that they are really wanting to try and make it work. I am MORE THAN SURE you would love the baby...But just do what you feel is best...If you need any support or would like to talk more, I have an e male through ya-who dot com...My address is smalley underscore michelle at yahoo..Good luck!
2006-11-25 05:57:12 · answer #8 · answered by Tazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend went through the same thing. Only thing was, she was 7 months along. Hopefully you have family and friends to help you. If you have somewhere else to go, do it now. Dont wait until January. Get yourself situated before you get too far along. It will be hard being a single mother, but it can be done. As far as your boyfriend, its going to be his loss when your lil one arrives. More than likely, he wont be there for you or for the baby, even after the delivery. You can opt for getting child support from him, but sometimes that doesnt work. In the end, he'll regret doing what he did. You just need to move on with your life and take care of yourself and your lil one. It'll be hard, but as long as you have friends and family, you'll get through it. Best of luck to ya!
2006-11-25 05:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
umm why cant he just leave you the apt if he is moving to another state? if you can afford the rent then just stay there if you cant do it by your self maybe one of your friends can move in with you and help out with rent if you dont want to stay there maybe your parents can help you and let you move back home this way they can help with the baby and you can go back to work/school or even go to find a job or go back to school and girl you can find the strength you have a lil life inside of you that is depending on you to stay healthy dont let this man get to you he is nothing your child is everything now if he wants to leave fine you have i am sure great friends and a great family to help you through this i wish you well god bless you and your baby
2006-11-25 05:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by ~Lisa~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋