My firends think i should say no.Allmy 3 children haveautism but my friend still wants my eggs. What should i do? Is it a painfull process? has anyone else done it for someone close?
2006-11-25 05:25:55 · 19 answers · asked by allyn 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you are a truely wonderful person to be willing to help someone in this way and help make their dreams come true.
I have been trying to get pregnant for 5 years and am having huge problems because i have pcos and don't produce eggs and i have thought about egg donation, and i know if someone would be willing to help me like that i would be forever in debt to them.
You are obviously a true friend and a wonderful human being.
Good luck to you and your friend
2006-11-25 10:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by gingey10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are doing is marvellous. You have no idea how great an assistance you are doing for someone else.I know a girl who gave some eggs and it was fine. She took some medication and then when the eggs were ready she went to the Doctor and they extracted it with a type of needle. She now has children of her own and it is great for the Donor and the other Person who also has a nice child. Do not be afraid. It is a simple method and very humane of you ...a gift for someone special.
Each woman has many millions of eggs in their body. A person who give a few is not going to lose anything but will gain great feelings of happiness for another person who has a beautiful child.
2006-11-25 13:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All 3 of my girls were born healthy. My 17 year old has diabetes now. I don't think I could donate my eggs to anyone. I would probably think of it as my child when it was born or maybe not. With your kids having autism, I would worry so much about the eggs being donated. If the child from that egg would have it. This is your choice and your choice alone. Don't let anyone tell you what to do. I am just giving you my opinion, and you know what they say about opinions. Good Luck what ever your choice.
2006-11-25 13:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by Donna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. I think its a great thing. You know Autism isn't really genetic. My cousin has autism and no one else in my family has it. Its something that just happens. Giving your firned a miracle is great. Its not a painful process. Make sure you do all of oyur research before you go in to have the egg removed.
2006-11-25 13:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you friend is desperate for a baby, but has you really thought of the complications, what if she does not want a baby with autism once it is born. I think that this could be a tricky situation for all of you.. I know that you want to help but I think that you need counselling to make sure that this is the right decision as there is no turning back!!!
2006-11-25 13:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all my children had autism, I could not put that burden on my friend, knowing that her child may have it as well. I think you should sit your friend down and kindly explain to her that altho you would love to be her donor, you simply cannot take the risk of giving her a child that may be born with birth defects. Her child could have it as well and you know first hand how hard it is to raise a special needs child. Good Luck to both you and your friend. =)
2006-11-25 13:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by Danelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thought that you would do this is very nice but since all 3 of your kids have autism, I would consider it too much of a risk. Would you like for her to have the same issues you have with your children? If not, I would rethink it.
2006-11-25 13:35:30 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you agreed to become an egg donor, you may not qualify if you don't pass the screening test.
Here is the link to find out what's involved in the process. Take care.
http://www.health.state.ny.us/nysdoh/infertility/eggdonor.htm
2006-11-25 13:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by mpicky2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a blessing to have someone do such a selfless act for a friend. Some people won't understand what you are doing or why but as long as you are confident in the fact of being able to do that for her then more power to you.
2006-11-25 13:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can check on the embryo and find out if it's healthy this is one point, the second is you might need to undergo hormonal treatment are you sure you are up to it? You have 3 children at home who will be with them if you need to be hospitalized, I am sure you want to do a wonderful thing but you need to consider all aspect.
2006-11-25 13:36:43 · answer #10 · answered by Josephine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋