I have both a bf and a gf?

Question

and they are both cool with each other until recently my bf suggessted a threesome my gf agreed and we did it ...It was f*****g incredible, but something has changed now my bf is very jealous whenever he knows I have been to see my gf and it bugs me to know my gf had sex with my bf, it's so weird, i don't know how to make things go back the way they were. Help

Answer 1

dear partygirl,
your boned. there isnt much you can do, by involving both parties in sex you have created paranoia. there realyl is no remedy to this.think about it like this... Q: do you ever wonder if the two see each other without you knowing? A: you should. i tried this thing that you did and it ended up killing the entire relationship, for both.
so here is what you should do... in my humble oppinion... figure out what is more important, him or her? then my best advice to you is to cut the relationship off. with one of them only if you want to continue with one... i resolved my own situation with that anwser. now you got to think Q: do they have a right to be justified in jealousy? A: of course they do. i would be very jealous if i knew that the person i was in a relationship went to someone else with theyre problems. a relationship is best left monogamous... or discreetly otherwise i.e a commited relationship whilst just bringing in outside parties.... like someone you met at a bar or a freind of a freind. nobody close to you. it causes conflict. so basicly figure out who is most important to you, and ditch the other or even better ditch both and find a new guy.

Answer 2

Hello,

I have never had a threesome but I am bisexual and I have a relationship with both a woman and a man. Mine is bit different since my female friend lives in a different state. But I have know many couples who have been where you are and experienced the same thing.

Open communication is a MUST. You may want to get them both together and have a very open talk and put it all on the table. Decide how you all want to proceed and know that if things continue they way they are (open or poly relationship) that you all have to be comfortable and assured and trust one another.

It comes down to trust and ownership. we do NOT own another and no matter what there is no guarantee that one person won't become attracted to another. It is always a chance and we have to trust the other person(s) and trust ourselves.

You are going to have your hands full though. LoL You know, making sure that everyone feels okay. don't trip though because they owe you the same respect (making sure YOU feel okay and assured).

I think though, talking openly is a required first step.

Wishing you the best. :)

Answer 3

I did exactly the same thing about 2 years ago and it ended my relationship with my gf. It was too hard to share the 2 people I cared most about. Now my bf and I have a baby and are married. I made the right choice but sometimes I wonder what the other option would be like!

Answer 4

Yeah...and it all falls down. Doesn't work half as well in practice, does it? My husband ran the idea of a threesome by me once. I thought I knew how things would turn out (like they have in your case), but he couldn't see past all the poonanny. Well, I started talking to a girl, not messing around but hanging out in a pre-dating capacity, and guess what? He got jealous and called off the threesome.

I think it's probably over. You should use this as a learning experience and do better next time. I'm sorry.

Then again, what do I know?

Answer 5

The reality is Cass that down deep as much as we say we are open to these things we are jealous people which means we have weak egos and insecurities. You guys can talk about it but in the end you will find that each of you is worried that one will like the other more and take them away from you...it is so hard to manage more than one equally.

Answer 6

Funny, my bf is asking for a threesome now. Have a girl that is game and this is the agreement I made. I do what I want to him and to her, he only touches me.

Answer 7

you prob. can't make things go back to the norm. you should of never mixed the two , now you have a problem. when you didn't have it before. how to fix it now is a repair that will almost be impossible. but good luck!

Answer 8

Get everyone together a few more times and they will all get better aquainted.

Answer 9

you had it great until you did that you cant change the past but you can always change the future

Answer 10

who do you love the most and who do you trust the most

nothing else matters

it is your choice