How do i deal with a mother that's an alcoholic?

Answer 1

you can't all you can do is try to get her to cut down, pray, talk to a older person see how they can help you, other than that I say pray because that is just something you just can't deal with

Answer 2

I was married to an alcoholic for many years so I know how hard it is. The first thing u need to do is remember that u personally can't help her. You can cry, threaten, yell, plead, guilt her, but believe me none of that will matter. The only thing u can do is get help for u. There are groups u can join such as alanon or alateen (depending on your age), these groups help alot because they are going through the same thing u are. The alcoholic has to hit a "bottom" to ever even consider that their life is worth getting sober for. You might have to consider going to live with a relative so she can have an eye-opener to what her lifestyle is leading her to. If u do decide to leave, don't make a scene or make her feel guilty, just say something like..........Mom, I love you but I can't stand by and watch u destroy your life like this, I hope u get help and when u do I will be there to support u and help u through this. It's really difficult to love someone and not be able to help them, but believe me it's out of your hands, so please get help for u and make your life the best it can be. Good luck and remember your Mom does love u, but alcoholism is a disease that is very hard to control but there is help for her and I hope she gets it.

Answer 3

Alanon would help. I had to distance myself from my dad. I took glance at your blog. When you had your troubles in life how much control did your mom have over your choices? Probably very little. Just as now you have little control over her actions. All you can do is choose how much of her life you are going to let in your life. I went back and forth with this for years until the day I though I had a hart to hart with my dad and found out later he was in a blackout at the time. I just have better things to spend my time on; I had enough of the drama and made up problems.

Answer 4

You learn to deal as well as you can. Don't ever feel guilty when your mad at her for not having tolerance. Have you tried going to an ACA (adult children of alcoholics) meeting in your area, if not, you should look in the phone book. You'd be surprised how many others are in the same boat, plus venting too others who really know how it feels is nice. I know.....
Noooo boogeyman......BOOGEYWOMAN

Answer 5

well first i an sorry for this my ex was one and still is but not my problem any more. Get you butt to some AA meeting for kids and spouses they helped me allot. Do not cover for your mother, do not lie for her, you can get rid of the booze but she will just buy more. Your mom is a drunk , alcoholics go to AA. Good Luck

Answer 6

depending on how old you are- you can attend al-anon meetings or al-ateen if you are younger. They can support you and give you resources for helping yourself. Unfortunately, if she truly is an alcoholic, she has a disease and needs to be treated like a sick person. Look in your phone book for numbers!

Answer 7

my mom is an alcoholic and i want 2 know the same so sorry i can't help u

Answer 8

1) If you don't live with her, you tell her quietly and lovingly that you just can't be around when she's drinking. Make it clear that she must be sober to spend time with you. Make it stick.

2) If you live with her and are an adult, move out. Then see step one above.

3) If you live with her and are a minor, get some help for yourself. Talk with your priest, minister, rabbi, school counselor, grandmother, aunt, uncle and tell them what's going on and ask for their help. Do it soon, please.

Answer 9

It all depends on your age. If you're under 18, you should get some advice from a guidance counselor. Talk to someone you know you can count on to give you sound advice.

Answer 10

When ever she buys alcoholic beverages throw it in the trash, and scream at her face!