Will you still be friends with her? Will you emphasize on the good things she has and praise her for it so that she'll be less jealous and competitive? Or will you stop being friends with her?
2006-11-25 04:08:22 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have had to deal with this a few times. just keep in mind that she is jealous because she is insecure. you should not be competitive back. that is just stupid. it doesn't ever change though. you might want to end the friendship. it can be quite bothersome. don't emphasize and praise her. she is showing some bad behavior and looking for attention. if you give it to her, she might think she can get whatever she wants out of you. this makes for someone who uses you. all of the times this has happened, I just acted myself and didn't show any concern or interest in what they were doing. the friendships eventually ended. you end up looking back and being thankful you didn't' have to deal with someone who was constantly trying to be better than everyone! Although some people say the sincerest flattery is mimicking
2006-11-25 04:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by i-care 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i once had a friend like that. it was hard 2 get along with her, yes, but i knew that there had 2 be some reason for her 2 wanna compete. she was most likely self-concious. i had 2 get her 2 know that i'm no better and that she is special in her own way. i kept complimenting her. if she was playing basketball with me and really i was doing a better job, i'd say she was. after a while, she started realizing that all along there was no reason 2 compete at all. we're still friends 2 this day.
2006-11-25 12:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the extent that the jealousy and competativeness goes and how often it occurs. If it is just occassional and not severe, I would try to help her build her self-confidence and point out her good quallities to try to mitigate the sitaution. If that did not work, I would try pointing out her behavior and how destructive it is on her friendships.
If it was all the time and/or the episodes severe to the point where it is constantly damaging my own or other mutual friends self-esteem, then it is time to end the friendship as she is not really your friend anyway; a friend will not damage other constantly to make herself feel or look better and she is just using you.
2006-11-25 12:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had this in my life.................jealousy is a powerful force............You have to let that person go.
Those who have been jealous of me in my life continued to compete with and hurt me until I finally dropped them.
It is such a shame. When I see someone do well, I am their best cheerleader. Those jealous ones from my past just seethed and undercut to take the pleasure away from me as best as they could.
Find real friends who cheer you on.
Even an ex-boyfriend hated to see me succeed and tried to sabotage me and of course there were the jealous women.
2006-11-25 12:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like that in high-school. I found myself complimenting her and trying to avoid confrontation- because I cared about her even though she was a jerk a lot of the time. You have to decide what's best for you- do you want to keep her as a friend, or will it be better for your emotional health to break off the friendship?
2006-11-25 12:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by piratewench 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you dont necessarily have to end the friendship. you can decide how much energy you want to put into the relationship. you dont have to counsel her on her issues, but you can suggest that she try to see that you are friends and there's no reason for jealousy. her insecurities arent yours to solve. most people who are insecure have difficulty trusting the positive that comes from friends anyway so you might be fighting a losing battle there.
good luck with it!
2006-11-25 12:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by maggiemae821 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be her friend and know she has low self esteem. Ignore her competive nature. Praising her would be extra nice of you.
2006-11-25 12:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. You know what take it like this: You are her role model, you are a trend setter, you are setting trends for her to follow. I know you hate it, but try to find friends who are on your level or better from now on or just be alone.
2006-11-25 12:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it happened to me but I just knew she was jealous so I didnt care for what she said and how she acted ,we're still friends and she finally gave up the competition with me!
2006-11-25 12:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell my true friend that we need not compete as she has qualities different than mine which are just great. I would praise her and be honest with her. She need to find self respect and self assurance; she need be herself
2006-11-25 12:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋