We used to be good friends, but have grown apart the past few months. I used to work with her sister, so I did know her well. It's a very sad situation, I feel terrible for her. Everyone at work keeps asking me if I've talked to her, and the truth is I haven't. I have no idea what to say to her. I'm sorry? Then what? How are you? Obviously, she's not doing well. I'm sure she's inconsolable and the conversation will be very awkward. Should I give her some space?
Please help.
2006-11-25 04:04:35 · 10 answers · asked by Me 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
We work together, so we see each other all the time, but we don't really hang out much anymore it what I mean. Everyone at work thinks we're super close though.
And since her sister died, she hasn't been at work, and she probably won't be back for at least another week, maybe more.
2006-11-25 04:20:32 · update #1
Good question, Jennifer...Since it's bothering you, I'm assuming you feel the need to call her. But what to say....there is nothing to say to make your friend feel better. You are so right that currently she's probably inconsolable...maybe the conversation will be a bit awkward due to this death and the fact you two have not spoken in awhile...but to simply show your respects, as some say, or to allay your anxieties, just jump in and call her...let her know you're there for her if she needs to talk...and please avoid such things as "you'll be ok" or "you'll soon be over this"....allow her to be right where she is, and meet her there. Best of luck to you :-)
2006-11-25 04:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kent 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A few months is not a few years or a lifetime. Friendship is not defined by how often you talk but the moments you share together. I am certain she's needs you as much as you need to comfort her through this experience. There is no perfect thing to say to someone who has experienced a loss. Just be there and listen. You could begin by simply telling her "I'm sorry we've lost contact these past few months. I really care about you and I want to be here for you, I am your friend. I don't want you to go through this by yourself. Life is really fragile and I would be devastated if I lost you. I know exactly how you feel. How can I help you?"
2006-11-25 04:12:31 · answer #2 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have not been in touch with this past friend for a period of time, this is not a time to strike up conversation. This is a personal time and she might get offended; send a sympathy card directly to her expressing how sorry you are for her and her family and tell her in the little note, your there for her if she need or want an ear to listen.
2006-11-25 04:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her, tell her you're sorry, and ask if there's anything you can do. It doesnt have to be a long phone-call, but I'm sure knowing that you're willing to be there for her if she needs you will mean a lot!
2006-11-25 04:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by piratewench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tlk to her let ur actions do the talking cuz talking wont make ehr feel any better go up to her n hug her tight
2006-11-25 04:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by && hOw dO i sAy i lUv u ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go and see her, sometimes u dont need to say nething she may just need a shoulder to cry on
2006-11-25 04:08:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk up to her and hug her, she will know and understand all the things you cant put into words.
2006-11-25 04:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Brittany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her dat maybe her friend just couldnt stay in dis place and dat she probably is better were she is and tell her dat life has to go on no matter wat. Sorry for da loss!!!!!!!!
2016-05-23 01:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her you will be there for her, to walk with her, or talk or just listen.
tell her she doesnt have to be alone
2006-11-25 04:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by missy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be there for her and do stuff with her and go places to get it off her mind.
2006-11-25 04:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋