Am I wrong?

Question

My girlfriend of almost 20 yrs came to visit my boyfriend and I about 1 1/2 ago. I had to go away for an emergency for about 4 days. During this time, my boyfriend (of 3 yrs) tells me she walked around w/ a wife beater and boxers on revealing the obvious body parts, while showing him photos of herself in a bikini in Cancun. I was of course livid and just cut off all ties w/her instead of fighting. She now conveniently lives 5 minutes from us w/ my boyfriend's mother while she "gets her life together." My problem is my boyfriend says there should be no problem w/ him being friendly to her. I agree that "hi and bye"should be ok because it is his mother's home, but that should be it. She steps beyond boundaries by having his mother call to get directions from him and to ask him other random questions. I think I'm ready to stop being patient! To top it off, I had no Xgiving because she opted to stay there! Am I overreacting? It just eats me up. Ladies, Men, Help ME!

Answer 1

find her a boyfriend that way she wont want yours! if that doesn't work drop that bithc, she's a whroe trying to scam on your man!

Answer 2

I think you're underacting. I think you should grab the bull by the horns and ask her what is up? Tell her what your boyfriend told you she did while you were away and how you not only find it highly inappropriate, but low and disrespectful in your own home, considering how much you trusted her. Let her be responsible for her actions and the consequences they have taken upon your friendship. Listen to what she has to say, be open minded and don't carry this all on your shoulders, this is a problem that belongs to you three; you, your boyfriend, and your rude friend.

Good luck.

Answer 3

That friend sounds more like something else. She is not your friend if she's intentionally trying to come on to your boyfriend. I don't know what the situation is but she shouldn't even be staying with his mother. She's not you. He should speak to her, but I don't see any reason for him and her to have any other kind of conversation. Girl, you should stop being so patient. I would of told her what I felt time I found out about her disrespecting my home. You need to let her know where you stand with her as soon as possible. Don't let that so called friend take your man!

Answer 4

You can't just blame your friend, your bf is leading her on in some ways. To let her stay w/ his mom that's pretty huge, however I don't know how their personal relationship is, I mean are they really good Friends who've know each for years or did they met through you? Because that'll shed some light on how serious it is, if he just met her and letting her live there then he may be partially to blame. She's a little heifer who's clearly trying to steal your man. You need to confront her and let her know you ain't playing, that you know about what she is up to. She's clearly trying to solicit him into having sex w/ her. He's also letting her because he doesn't see that it bothers you and that should be more important than her.

Answer 5

this is a ichie a** and a nasty one
if you've lost him than it doesn't matter what you do,and if things are fine your waisting time good time if it's handle it if it's not than don't worry about it because you can and will push away two friends,boyfriends are dime a dozen friends you know love and trust WELL you get the idea
hell talk to them both and find a way and a solution there are a lott of possibility's there good and bad

Answer 6

You should have dealt with this when it happened. At this point, your "friend" has no idea. Especially since somehow you or your boyfriend arrange for her to live with his mother (unless they knew eachother before you came into the picture). This is a huge mess because you chose to take the passive agressive route.

Answer 7

for one heres what i make of this...

his mother likes this girl more than u.
he has or is interested in this girl, maybe just for a bootycall (if he hasnt yet he is thinkin bout it)
thats why he wants to be so called friendly with her..yea my big ghetto butt.
why she stayin with his mother anyho. how she get so close to his mother? sound suspicious to me. u should of whooped dat biatches @#^ . u need to check everyone. tell ya man, u aint havin it, u aint stupid, and if he wants or has tapped dat ho, take his behind on down to his mommas, tell her: she is bout to get what she dont want which is u all up in her $%#$, tell his mom that u dont appreciate her inablin this ho to take advantage of her or her son, and it disrespects u and its not goin to continue. that the phone calls from her (his mother ) are ok only but not when its for or about that ho. girl wouldnt have been me. id of handeled this already.

Answer 8

Yeah, sounds suspicious to me. I'd tell her in no uncertain terms to get out of your lives. But, it's his mother's home so she can decide who stays there or not. Maybe the mother is using her to break you two up, i mean if she and you don't get along well.

Answer 9

What the hell is up with her? Girl, you need to talk to her as she has been your girl for 20 years. As for the guy, what does he know! They always get impressed with ladies attention. A woman is a woman's worst enemy... remember that. If you love him enough, then better talk now then later.

Answer 10

emotional situations are diffecult you will have to deal wit it and not over react to.
remember if you do not find an appropriate way tobalance you emotions you will become one of the 10% who suffer personaliitiy disorders