I am a very friendly person. I guess you can say very likable and gets along with everyone just about.
Here is the problem. I have one BEST friend we talk every morning before we begin school. We both home school our children.
Once my day start it is, breakfast, school, laundry, house chores, lunch, playtime, cooking dinner, devotion, bathtime, beddy bye.
Well, the problem is (and I don't mean to sound arrogant or anything) people are so attracted to me for friendship and they all want to become my friend. I'm speaking of women folks. Most of them will have real inferiority complexes, have no friends and think because I am friendly with them they I'm their new best friend.
I CAN'T DO THIS. I can't be everybody in the worlds friend. And I definitely don't have the time to chat with them on the phone everyday.
I have tried being nice to them because I dont' want to hurt anyone feelings and kindly tell them that I can't talk. BUT like I said most of these women
2006-11-25 03:14:38 · 5 answers · asked by egg_sammash 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Very lonely and seem to be struggling with feelings of rejection.
I love people but I'm only one person. I can't be 12 other people's best friend. I just can't do it. I have told them that my day is very very busy and I can't chat but most ignore and call anyways. I now just don't answer the phone when they call. I feel bad about it but geez!
2006-11-25 03:16:46 · update #1
Most of those women are not listening. They hear you but they are not listening. This is a tough one and I have been there and what I did was take a gamble and let them know how I felt and at time I was cruel and others I was gentle, depending upon the person and circumstances, because I got sick and tired of playing mother goose so to speak, of course they didn't like it, but I got my peace of mind back. I had more time to enjoy those who are more important. I just realised at that point that even a balloon will pop when it expands too much. Humans are the same.
2006-11-25 03:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You will exhaust yourself trying to be all things to all people - you need to set boundaries. Use caller ID and an answering machine to screen calls. If you want to tone down a relationship with someone take a couple days to call them back at a time that is convenient for you, but with a deadline on the duration of the call "I've been so busy, and I only have a couple of minutes to talk, how are you?" Then stick to the short call. How are all these folks getting your phone number anyway? Best of luck.
2006-11-25 03:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell them you don't have the time and how your day is ladded out. If you can't stay after it you can't get every thing done. That should help with some of them. Get a caller id on your phone and only answer the ones that you want to.
2006-11-25 03:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have be more direct. Tell them that you are busy and need to get off the phone and that you will talk to them another time. If they really consider you a friend--they'll understand. You don't need to be put in that position and as long as you let them put you there, that is right where you are going to be. It is up to you to change this.
2006-11-25 03:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
u sound like u think u are to good for these people maybe they want to be your friends because they like u and nothing more
2006-11-25 03:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by sonoftazont 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋